I'm sorry you are going through this. May be she should have mentioned this before you packed up and moved 500 miles. Did she feel this way before the move? Sounds like you have been side blinded and usually there is a deeper reason as to why and what she's telling you right now. When you take her out at the weekend be sure to remind her just what you gave up in order to support her and the very least she can do is be totally honest with you. If she is refusing to go to counseling with you then it may be time for you to take a stand and think about your own wants and needs. Good luck.