Well I really do complain alot. And it's mainly lack of confidence. I am really working on this with myself but I don't think he sees that. As far as my weight I have already lost a total of 25lbs. Yes I am doing this for myself because it makes me feel better but I guess for him the 25lbs didn't come off that quick..Should this be a reason to leave someone? I've also recently graduated from college and I'm starting to look for a job but since I haven't been working consistently throught my years of being married, I feel insecure about looking for a real job if I have no experience. I'm seriously working on myself but in the process I guess I'm making him miserable. It's really all excuses. My whole life I've been put down by my family and that's probably why I don't have alot of confidence in myself. Self confidence is not something that you can develop in a day or two but I can honestly say that I'm trying to change that about me. Not for anyone else but for me.