I am curious if anyone would have any advice on if I would be making the right decision if I was to opt for divorce. My husband and I have been very unhappy for sometime now, and things are good for a couple of weeks and then it just goes back to being horrible again. We have tried counseling and it seemed to be starting to make a difference, but then we hit a wall, and the therapist explained that if we keep going the way we are it's just going to end up in hating each other and having resentment for one another. It ended by him telling us that we both had to being willing to change and be the best spouse we could because we wanted too, not because the other was saying so. I have been trying ever since. As far as my husband is concerned, it almost seems like he was trying really hard until he got comfortable again and relized me leaving him wasn't in the near future. We were doing okay for a little while but then things just started going down hill again. I have reconnected with an old friend who is in the same situation I am, miserable but doesn't want to leave because of the children. He makes me feel good about myself which hasn't happened in a long while, but I just don't know if divorce is the right answer, for the kids sake at least. Does anyone have any suggestions?