I have the same problem right now. wondering if we should stay for the kids or not. i also don't think things will get better and now that my girls (age 10) are getting older I really fear the example that i am setting for them. this is not the way a marriage should be and i am afraid that I am showing them this wrong example of a marriage. we don't fight alot - just don't speak. ours could be an amicable divorce (I think) so I feel that may be better for them. Then I read these posts about how awful it will be and think "well we've been living this way for 5 yrs now I guess we can keep it up" But also - it is getting worse - I think we are starting to hate each other. Sometime I look at him and I see the disgust on his face and I think "boy you really do hate me".

So what to do???????? I don't have a clue - I just wish I could make a damn decision!