well i find out 2 days before i turn 30 and 4 days after our family vacation that my wife isn't happy and wants to seperate. floored had no idea, yeah we argued alittle her and there but nothing i though would cause this. everyone has there little disagreements her and there. so she leaves for a few days. (she is a hugh church go-er, i used to be but hadn't been in a while) so i get back in church she comes home we try but she doesn't seem like she is trying says she not happy shy away from me. so one day i am asking and pleading with her about what to do and whats wrong with her and i ask hey did you cheat on me and she said yes. FLOORED.. and she hasn't looked back since, been seeing him, going away on weekends, non stop talking to him. i tried to tell her i can forgive her and we can work through it. she wants no part. she just filed last wednesday. I didn't want to i wanted to try to fix it, i love her we have 3 girls at home. i love them can't stand to go one night without them. i have moved out and agreed to let her stay in our dream home we just bought a year ago so the kids woundlnt get to upset. i have been out a week now and now she is using everthing against me like this is all my fault and then she tells me today that her lawyer said that i am going to pay child support. she forgot to tell her lawyer that she cheated on me. she told him that we just grew apart. what can i do? i know nothing and she wont tell me what her lawyer has said and she is using every little thing to ruin my life. i cry all the time and have lost 28 pounds in about 5 weeks. can i still go to my house, she says i will go to jail. and the custody thing yes i want them but i believe a man shoudlnt' take them from there mother. but the way we both work i have them more than she does anyway. its been like that for 3 years now. i have cooked and bathed them more in the last 3 years than she has. my friends always so that i always have them girls. cause when she is off we have them together. its all starting to get real rough and i dont know what the laws are or what to do. im tired of her playing me like a fool.