taryn
(Platinum)
04/19/08 06:59 PM
75.185.132.243
dont you LOVE....

i LOVE when my kids come home!

a 'hi mommy' and the yard is suddently filled with kids.
not just mine...but like pied pipers my kids draw the rest of them!

and they are off!
and i get to hear the sounds of laughing and playing.
and for a few hours after they come home even the
tattletailing and bickering rolls off my back.

i will say one VERY good thing about this divorce is i do NOT take my kids for granted any more.
i think, for a while, i did.

what a lucky parent i am to have kids who are such great people from the big one with the "hey, mom, i ate a triple scoop today! the whole thing!" right down to the little one with the, "yeah, me havin dat siesceem too, mama".



jakandme
(Platinum)
04/19/08 07:04 PM
216.41.247.135
Re: dont you LOVE....

kids are with ass tonight. the oldest with his dad. I'm all alone but I'm not lonely. And I know exactly what you mean about taking them for granted. And if they are with you 24/7, you lose your temper more and you aren't as well able to let the bickering roll off your back. Am I right? Or just me? but I love it when they get home and all of their little personalities seem to shine even brighter than before and I am remembering how lucky I am to have them. It's great. I'm alone but not lonely, I know they will all be home tomm. and all heck will break loose and I'm looking forward to it. Tonight, I'm gonna be me and not mommy and maybe do something for this person I'm starting to like now. You are such a cool chic Taryn. I read alot of your posts and I think that we are alike but you seem so much stronger than me and I think highly of you.

SFLLADY
(Silver)
04/19/08 10:40 PM
205.188.117.143
Re: dont you LOVE....

Iwould love the opportunity to do as you are this evening and just decide to do nothing or anything at all. But, my X doesn't take the kids for any over nights or even visits off-site at all. I told him I don't understand why he doesn't feel comfortable taking his children to where he now resides..he never gives me an answer. I'm beginning to think its because his GF doesn't want to deal w/ them and her 2 kids also.( they aren't his..hers from a past relationship)

mistake#2
(Platinum)
04/20/08 12:47 AM
71.100.165.23
Re: dont you LOVE....

Sometimes I feel like I need a break. I have 100% responsibility until summer and then one child goes for the entire summer, which gives us both reflection and I'm more than ready by the end of summer for his return. The other kids might go for up to 4 weeks and it's stressful. I get phone calls at 2 am with kids crying...one time I had an afternoon call while putting the other child on the plane and heard my daughter being assaulted by her father (blood curteling screams that still make me tear up just thinking about it) 'til the line went dead. It isn't the break that I need.
The kids have been arguing non-stop lately, my 15 year old constantly interrupts me to the point where I can't even complete one sentence, my 8 year old is healthy (finally not having any major issues) but his behavior disorders and issues in school have not only been affecting the whole household but even has me thinking about home schooling him (which I swore I would never do). The baby has a cold and due to the pregnancy my milk is drying up so she's not happy to not be able to nurse (and I'm sore, probably TMI sorry). My 13 year old got into some poison oak and was covered in blisters this past week...then had an attitude because his dad was only sending him to 2 camps this summer supposedly because I had stated that I thought 4 was excessive and that made it my fault.
On the rare occasion that they are all behaving at the same time, not annoying one another and I get to enjoy them...yes I absolutely LOVE having them and hearing the laughter and pitter patter around the house.


Cryssyer
(New)
04/21/08 09:25 AM
65.217.168.7
Re: dont you LOVE....

I have just one kid, and he can be pretty demanding in his needs, but I totally agree with you. When I pick him up after school and his face is beaming and he throws his arms around me in a big bear hug, I am in heaven. I practically float for an hour or so.

Tainted?
(Bronze)
04/21/08 10:45 AM
67.61.126.158
Re: dont you LOVE....

I love when one of my youngest boys comes home from school. He gets off the buss and runs to me with the biggest hug ever. My other little boy always holds out his arms for a big hug and kiss before he goes in to his pre school class. My daughter is a daddys girl and he spoilles her rotten. Mostly she has attitide with me, cause i wont give in to her tirades. There are moments though when she is perticularly sweet and just want to hang out with me. Its very nice to connect with her. I really do love it. My teenager is funny. I love when we can make each other laugh, i mean really laugh. The kind of laugh that get milk shooting out your nose. He is an awesome kid. Thanks for making this post so we can share our precious moments with each other.

germangirl631
(Platinum)
04/21/08 03:11 PM
63.127.202.141
Re: dont you LOVE....

[quote] i LOVE when my kids come home! [quote]

I can't wait to say this. My son never leaves home because his dad lives 10 hours away and never has enough money to take him for a week or so. Granted, he's trying to demand all sorts of parenting time in the D, but never follows through on any of it. Everyone is suffering because of it. Enjoy your break, and the great feeling you have when your kids come home. You're lucky!


melanie14
(Platinum)
04/26/08 07:12 PM
12.218.148.0
Re: dont you LOVE....

You are so right Taryn. And you know what, I can still say after five years you still LOVE when they come home. I enjoy some alone time, just to regroup or whatever. But when six o'clock on Sunday nite rolls around, I'm so thankful to have them back..and they're teenagers!

abbysfv
(Platinum)
04/27/08 10:30 PM
69.230.66.113
Re: dont you LOVE....

[quote]
i will say one VERY good thing about this divorce is i do NOT take my kids for granted any more.
[/quote]

I know what you mean sometimes it nice to get a break but I'm so happy when she comes back. Tonight he gave her a giant size lollipop and she's all sugared up but I'm glad she back.

:)


weary
(New)
04/29/08 11:33 PM
66.172.105.229
Re: dont you LOVE....

And I love when my stepson comes for his every other weekends and every Wednesday and the same story...a quick "hi", then run outside to join his sisters and the neighborhood kids, and even later when he is bickering with his sister. It is so rewarding knowing that he has that comfortable, loved feeling. When I see it, I know that it is worth all the unnecessary cr@p that his mom throws our way!


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