Hello! I'm new here, looking for support. I haven't filed yet. I know this sounds dumb but I want to get some things together before I leave him. I haven't called an atty yet and hope to do so soon. We have 3 kids under 11. I have been with him for 20 years, we met in high school. Married for 15 years now. I'm tired. I'm tired of verbal and the pushing/shoving that happens. I'm tired of being treated like a slave rather then a partner. I don't want counseling I just want this over. He has warned me that if I leave and he finds me I'll be dead, the kids too! I'm scared, I do work but it's a brand new biz so I haven't gotten paid yet. SIGH! I'm worried about how I'm going to make it. He has been the breadwinner for 11 years. I've never been on my own. I just know I'm tired... Thanks for listening to me ramble. Any suggestions or tips from anyone are appreciated.