| Barelywrong |
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| 07/08/07 06:02 PM |
| 69.66.98.245 |
Wife absent -- important question
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Ok. She said she wanted a seperation and a divorce. Gonna be a while til we can afford two places. She was gone all of last weekend. all of the fourth. and now this weekend. I'm talking as soon as I enter the door until the early am's on monday actually. This last time she took the youngest of our 3 children. The first 2 times she left all 3 with me.
I want to say something, but I'm beginning to wonder. If this continues for a couple months. I mean gone all weekend without the kids, would that help me in keeping the kids? How much would she have to be absent for it to matter? At least show instability, I'd think.
| theanswerguy |
| (Platinum) |
| 07/08/07 06:14 PM |
| 64.12.117.10 |
Re: Wife absent -- important question
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[quote]I want to say something, but I'm beginning to wonder. If this continues for a couple months. I mean gone all weekend without the kids, would that help me in keeping the kids? How much would she have to be absent for it to matter? At least show instability, I'd think. [/quote]
There are too many variables to give a precise answer . Generally the courts will award custody based on historical factors ( who's doing the majority of the child care , taking the kids to the doctor , etc. ) . What sort of cusodial agreement is she seeking ?
| Barelywrong |
| (New) |
| 07/08/07 06:27 PM |
| 69.66.98.245 |
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Re: Wife absent -- important question
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Pretty standard. She has em. I get every other weekend. I don't think she's really thought about any of this realistically.
She's 3 months out of bariatric surgery and has lost 100 pounds in those 3 months. At first I assumed she had found a new lease on life and it sounded like a good idea for her to have them. Now I'm starting to wonder if its not something worse. Total personality change over night. She stopped talking to her old friends virtually overnight and just dissappears. I know it's been just a week, but this woman isn't someone I recognise.
Up until last week, she took care of the entire household. Now? She isn't even answering cell phone calls from anyone. Me I'd understand, if she's leaving me.
| gigi |
| (Platinum) |
| 07/08/07 10:37 PM |
| 68.110.71.127 |
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Re: Wife absent -- important question
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She's no longer a stay at home mother who should be getting the kids during the week & "giving" you every oter weekend. You're their full time parent & the only reason she sees them is you're gone at work during the week. Consinder figuring out how to split the finances well before your planned split, file for divorce and stay in the house, and keep the kids with you. Truly, don't let her call herself a stay at home mom just to get daycare during the week. You can't afford to pay her for this, and she is not exactly being responsible.
Whatever her secret life is, she's not letting you in on it so in her mind, she's divorced already. And in her world, this means dumping the kids on you whenever she wants to ...