| grassgreener |
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| 04/23/08 02:04 PM |
| 76.106.127.67 |
Military Divorce
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I have been married 22 years to ADAF service member. He's going to retire in June with the official retirement date in September 2008. I haven't been happy for quite some time...long story as I'm sure they usually are. Lately, I had moved to allow my 16 yr old son to attend the high school he attended previously before another PCS last summer. My son and I have been living in another state for the past 7 months. My spouse has been paying the rent/utilities/etc..even though I worked, just didn't make enough. I'm wondering about divorce from a military member. Is it better to wait until he officially retires?
I am currently back here with my husband but only to help get the house in order to sell as he'll be moving again in June or July. I have stayed home most of his career...small jobs here and there...my son would live with me most of the year...what are the chances I would get alimony since my husband is the one with all the education?
| pdm1960 |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/23/08 07:03 PM |
| 129.198.241.62 |
Re: Military Divorce
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Grassgreener,
first let me say the age old adage......
the grass isn't always greener.......
but I'm not in your shoes.
To answer your questions.
No, it don't matter at this point when you divorce. It sounds like you've already got the minimum requirement to get some of his retirement.
Next, alimony or spousal support will depend on which state you file in and how good your attorney is.
Does your spouse know you want a divoce yet?
Good luck
| Scarlett435 |
| (New) |
| 04/25/08 07:08 AM |
| 214.3.40.3 |
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Re: Military Divorce
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Don't sign anything your service member tells you to sign UNLESS you get legal advice and understand everything completly. You are entitled to a survival benefit annuity that when these guys go to retire, will say oh we can purchase this later. DO NOT sign the papers. If you relinquish your benefit and get divorced your "annuity payment/spousal support" will stop. Go to the dfas.mil website and read, get educated about what your entitlements are. If you have been married tweenty years then your entitled to the 50% otherwise it's payments are based on a percentage of the 50%. Go to legal on base and talk to them to see what they say but be cautious they are there for the military member NOT SPOUSES. Just listen and absorb what they tell you and use what you can to your advantage. Good luck!