| RaiderJay |
| (New) |
| 08/13/07 08:18 AM |
| 217.69.178.16 |
What can I do?
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Hey everybody, I'm starting a divorce but I have no idea where to start. Here's my situation, I was in the Marine Corps for 6 years and I was discharged for an injury that I suffered on active duty. Well I was forced out of the military and I couldn't find a job quick enough and my bills started to add up, collections were calling me everyday and eventually my vehicle was repossesed and I was asking my parents for money to buy groceries. Well that's no way to live so I decided to get a job in Kuwait (fast money and tax free). Like I said earlier I was in the Marine Corps, well I figured she could handle paying the bills. Well that wasn't the case, she didn't pay any of my bills and another car of mine was repossesed. Then she tells me she wants a divorce, and I agreed. Well I found out that she is living with a boyfriend and she is pregnant. She used my money that I was sending home to buy a brand new car. So I found out all this and decided that it was time to take a vacation to see what's going on and she withdrew all the money in the bank account so I can't buy a plane ticket. So basically I'm stranded here in Kuwait and I can't even get a personal loan because of what she did to my credit. We have two children and Im' worried about what the outcome of this situation will be. She asked me for 700 dollars a month for the kids, then she wants 1000.oo now. I dont know what to do, should I give her the money? I don't want to be supporting her new boyfriend while he sits there and watches my t.v. She has an apartment now, when I do go home... Can I go to her apartment without any approval. I need to get all the account numbers for my bills, and get copies of my seperation paperwork from the Marine Corps. Well she has all that information in her apartment. Is there anything legal that say's I can't go into the apartment. What rights do I have to protect me in this situation. I plan on changing my bank account today so she won't be able to access my accounts anymore. I need some help people, please. All I wanted to do is provide for my family and I got screwed, big time. any suggestions will be welcomed. Thanks.
| RIDERDOWN |
| (Platinum) |
| 08/13/07 08:53 AM |
| 71.193.137.201 |
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Damn Raider, that sucks!
Sorry about all the shit. Before anything else let me say thank you for your service. You shouldn't have to pay for your service of your country with ruined credit and a lost family.
Maybe you could check with the VA and see if you might find some legal help there. Then check with the US Embassy about some help getting home to start addressing some of these issues. I don't know what the laws say in New Mexico about entering her apt but I would go on the assumption that you would be considered a trespasser. As soon as you file for divorce your attorney will be able to demand document production that would legally require her to produce all the documentation you have mentioned.
You have stumbled onto a great bunch of people here. While we may not be able to answer all your legal questions with authority, we can share with you our experience. That may be some help to you. Come here as often as you can and post your questions, frustrations, and pain. We have all either been through it or are going through it. You are not alone.
Good luck. Let us know of any progress.
| KGrow |
| (Platinum) |
| 08/13/07 09:01 AM |
| 24.8.144.220 |
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Don't give her any more money until you see a court order.
You can't bust into her apartment to get your stuff. Ask her politely and professionally and in writing to give it to you or make copies for you. This is a request that she can't reasonably refuse. If she does you'll need to find a lawyer.
Good luck putting your life back together.
| RaiderJay |
| (New) |
| 08/18/07 09:12 PM |
| 71.33.63.124 |
Re: What can I do?
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well everybody, I've made it back to the U.S. but only for a month. I have no idea where to begin... I changed banks so she couldn't take anymore money out of my accounts, but unfortantely she has a power of attorney. I've asked her for the POA but I really doubt she'll give it back. Well I mentioned that I was working in Kuwait and she found a new boyfriend and moved out. Well she has alot of my stuff, a t.v., bed, ,my massive dvd collection, my computer, basically all the valuables. What are my odds of getting this stuff back? I've asked for some of the stuff but she just laughed at me. Well what do I have to do to get back my stuff. I don't really know what else she has of mine, but I can't find my poker chips and I know that she hates poker. I'm just upset right now, but I'm trying to keep my cool I want to take care of this legally rather than busting in and taking my shit. Another thing, she's living with a new boyfriend and this guy has a history of violence.. Apperareantly he stabbed someone (that's what I heard) I don't want my children there with this guy. What can I do in this situation? Would that be on public record? If this guy really did stab someone, how can I find out. Well people thanks for your help..