Get another restraining order based upon her past behavior coupled withthe assault on your 2 year old. Anyone who revvs up a car and drives towards a 2 year old in a parking lot is intentionally scaring both the child and the mother, and she should be required to leave when she sees your car in a parking lot rathre than rev it and proceed towards you.

I think she knows you've got the battle going with her and wants to intimidate you, but you never know, so be careful. Keep your little ones away from her, even if she has a puppy or kitten or whatever. JUST as you'd keep them away from a strange and dangerous looking dog. As cute as the puppy is, you think of it with bared teeth & horrible claws.

Frankly, knowing how dogs can be aroudn little ones, your husband's ex was probably protecting the 18 month old when yanking the dog away & keeping the little one away. Some dogs don't do well with little children, thinking of them as a playtoy, littermate, or a rabbit to chase. The fact that little ones squeal, hold their hands out just past nost range & inviting a nip, and run away... it just strengthens the hunt/prey/play instinct, and even if it's just playing, puppies will play roughly if they're thinking they're playing iwth another squealy puppy.

But the thing with the car in the parking lot... it's not right. If you've had past restraining orders, there shoudl be a way to get another one.

And one more thing... aren't the older ones like older teens in high school? If so, then they're clearly old enough to know for sure who is and is not a real sister, who has their blood & whatever. For their mother to try to say otherwise is out of line, but also probably not effective and just turns off the kids. Let that junk roll off your back. She's clearly saying it to the older ones just so that they'll report it back to you and get you all riled up.

I've seen one of your other threads, you do get QUITE involved and it's pretty easy to rile you up about this. She may be having fun with it. If so, find a way to stop it frmo being so fun for her.

I'm not UN-sympathetic to you. I'm a stepmother, myself. I know how weird it is when a birth mother is crazy & a little evil... but you ahve to separate yourself from it unless you choose to live within the drama that she creates for you. THe drama you live in is ONLY the drama you respond to. If you choose to stop responding, you'll see it starts feeling a whole lot less dramatic.