| liberated |
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| 12/20/07 08:19 AM |
| 99.162.112.106 |
When a family friend becomes the new guy
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I have an interesting situation developing. We are in a very large church and I have been involved in the food ministry for many years. I help in most church dinners, retreat functions, etc. Well, about 5 years ago a new man came to the church. He is single and all about food
He works for Blue Bell ice cream as his day job and also has a BBQ business on the side. We have worked together for a long time and always gotten along great. He is generous, a loving Godly man, but always appropriate. I don't want anyone getting the wrong idea. I was certainly attracted to him, but kept him at arms length because I knew it could be trouble.My teen son has worked for him when he had catering jobs and last spring I helped with a job or two as well. All of my children love him because he truly pays attention to them. He's like the cool uncle and he has won their hearts.
Now that I am alone, he has been helping with things like getting the Christmas lights up, moving furniture for me with his pickup, and now he's going to help me paint this weekend. It is obvious that the attraction is mutual and he is much more flirty now that I am available. No profession of love or even a real date...but the chemistry is there and we have been friends for a long time so I know how compatible we are. We work very well together.
My children love having him around and no one has asked anything yet. I'm wondering how this will play out since it's so different than dating and THEN having the guy meet the kids. He has watched my kids for 5 years. He said that was one of the first things he noticed about me, my little ducks following me around the church and sitting so nicely in the service.
Anyway, I dont' know that I necessarily am asking for advice...but it's kind of exciting to share and most IRL friends would tell me it's WAY TOO SOON. But I didn't go out looking for him, God just put his truck in my driveway
| 5yrsonlyfair( |
| (Gold) |
| 12/20/07 08:53 AM |
| 24.126.57.153 |
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Re: When a family friend becomes the new guy
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Well, just sit back and enjoy the ride.
| ATVILLAS |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/20/07 12:00 PM |
| 74.233.128.17 |
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Well, just sit back and enjoy the ride.
I agree, just go slow. Seems like it is an alround win win right now, you should enjoy the moment.
| Solorider |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/20/07 08:24 PM |
| 69.59.205.143 |
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Keep the truck in the driveway and not in the garage...at least for now. You can know someone for a long time and then once things become intimate...they change. Just be careful. But who knows really...this all could lead to something really great!
| liberated |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/20/07 10:05 PM |
| 99.162.112.106 |
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Keep the truck in the driveway and not in the garage...at least for now. You can know someone for a long time and then once things become intimate...they change. Just be careful. But who knows really...this all could lead to something really great!
THis is probably good advice which I will heed...
and I have a long way to go of clearing Ex's stuff before any vehicle will fit in the garage...maybe a built in safety net?
| hardhurt |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/20/07 10:11 PM |
| 67.83.87.34 |
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short cuts are so great, we are always happy when we find one....go for it, be happy ,live again
happy holidays
andy
| Nish |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/22/07 03:34 AM |
| 67.169.18.18 |
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Pay attention to what your body and instincts tell you. You have come so far already. If it feels right and you enjoy each other's company, what is the harm?
Enjoy this great friend and see what unfolds. Just be yourself and let God guide you along your path.
Merry Christmas,
Nish
| Cindy B |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/22/07 08:26 AM |
| 75.16.99.134 |
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God didn't put his truck in your driveway, this man did. He is obviously into you. Enjoy the attention and flirtation. This is the fun part!
| learninglife1 |
| (Silver) |
| 12/23/07 12:04 PM |
| 76.115.95.148 |
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My blessings dear, You have every reason to pursue this relationship cuz FEW MEN ARE GODLY MEN and even fewer want to be responsible for raising another mans brood. God is good and loves us all. Realize that you can open that door, but don't fear for God in the Spirit of Christ is with you and will guide you both and protect you. Give this man a little encouragement and ask his motives,when he answers, if your eyes well up with tears of JOY it is a blessing from the GREATEST source possible. MERRY CHRISTMAS, I may be in the same place with a lady I have yet to meet, but my 2 girls have given their injured daddy their blessing.
| saamrodi |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/30/07 05:04 PM |
| 24.32.252.180 |
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"Anyway, I dont' know that I necessarily am asking for advice...but it's kind of exciting to share and most IRL friends would tell me it's WAY TOO SOON. But I didn't go out looking for him, God just put his truck in my driveway "
...then again in situations like these, I say keep going with the flow hun. Every situation is different and I joyfully read your post knowing that things can work even quicker, clearer, and with tons of promise with God involved. **huge smile for you**
No, it wasnt planned, so why try to plan now? Just go with it.....WOW! ltm
| saamrodi |
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| 12/30/07 05:05 PM |
| 24.32.252.180 |
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OH! and I sooooooo want to hear updates on this!!!
| saamrodi |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/31/07 11:50 AM |
| 24.32.252.180 |
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"He is still trying to convince me to let him prove his love...I am done"
Wishing you luck in the future hun, but I remember that although your husband was "controlling" this all really was a shock to him and his life has quite changed now financially and the amount of time he sees the kids. I was wondering how he is doing. How is he handling things right now? Its very soon after divorce, how do you think he will deal with someone in the picture soo soon? Spending more time with his kids then he is?
Its honestly just a question. My ex was controlling with many anger issues also but I was the one who was begging for him to change and to make things work out as we did counseling. Even if things are over, we still worry about them. Any updates on your ex?
| liberated |
| (Platinum) |
| 12/31/07 01:08 PM |
| 76.250.119.128 |
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Well, he (my ex) isn't around and he isn't communicating with me about how he is doing. I'm sure he's still hurting but he won't admit it to me. And he knows this man has been helping and around...I'm not hiding or flaunting anything but I'm sure the kids bring his name up. He was a friend to all of us, although ex never had much to do with him, since he didn't help in the church functions-stayed isolated to himself. The kids have noticed how often the new man (E) is around, almost every other day...he has taken us to lunch after church several weeks. He wants to pamper me and make sure I don't cook on Sundays. Part of my life before was NEVER eating out and cooking 21 meals per week. I didn't complain but E comes from a different point of view and thinks I deserve to be pampered; how can a girl argue with that? We have had a discussion and he would like to see me often and/or alone, but we aren't pushing that right now for the kids' sake. He just hangs out with us all. He did ask to see me tomorrow when my kids go to their father's. I will be anxious to see how that goes
Thanks for all the warm wishes. This is a bit scary, though very exciting. Having someone find you interesting and desirable is a precious thing.