| liberated |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/28/08 11:31 PM |
| 76.240.76.232 |
The Irony of it All
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Okay, ladies, we have talked about the irony of the late in life "awakening" that many of us feel and how frustrating that is in a divorce situation. I am feeling so frustrated tonight, I could scream. I'm laying it all out here due to the anonymity of this place...
First I waited until I got married to have sex. I married as a 21 yr old virgin. Then I spent 17 years with a man who couldn't have cared less about sex. It was a twice a month, middle-of-the-dark-night ONLY occurrence lasting 15 minutes and so predictable I could have scripted it for the last 15 years! Oh, what I didn't know I was missing out on
So I am now free of that and dating a wonderful man who has turned my sexual world from black and white to TECHNICOLOR...times infinity. I am so hot for him, and likewise...this could turn p*rnographic if I'm not careful. So here's this prim and proper conservative mother of 5, finally awakening at the ripe old age of 39! and where am I most nights---alone! We have every other weekend together and not much else. Kids are around all the time, life is busy. He lives 15.6 miles away (yes, we've measured
) And here I sit at "that" time of the month when I'd walk on fire to be there tonight...but alas, I'm a mom! Good moms don't do that! By the time we are together again, this mood will have subsided some, but I am just so frustrated that we can't be together like it's supposed to be. Having been married, at least I know what that dynamic is supposed to look like...and this ain't it!Surely I'm not the only one. The thing is-if I had never woken up, I wouldn't know any better and be able to just remain sexually shut-down. not so with this EOW hot rendezvous. That just revs me up and then I have to go home!!!
Okay, so if this was TMI or inappropriate, I am sorry....but I am horny and alone with a huge stack of papers I am supposed to be grading...anything to procrastinate
And I bet i'm not the only one Right, ladies?
| theanswerguy |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/28/08 11:48 PM |
| 205.188.117.143 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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Actually , I'm in the same boat you're in . I , usually only see my lady friend every other weekend ( with the occasional midweek tryst ) . While I can say with all certainty that any sex was good when younger , it's way better at 40 with the right person .
| liberated |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/28/08 11:54 PM |
| 76.240.76.232 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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While I can say with all certainty that any sex was good when younger , it's way better at 40 with the right person .
Amen, I told my best friend a while ago it was like comparing McDonald's to a fine dining experience, but I was wrong...it's like comparing a bag of chips from 7-11 to a fine dining experience
I've had all the chips I need for a lifetime...
| 8562 |
| (Gold) |
| 04/29/08 08:00 AM |
| 64.12.117.143 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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I am so with you! About the last 8 years of my marriage I could've cared less about sex, now I would like to have it as often as possible! Hormones and life can be so unfair at times.
Love the chips and dining comparison.
| Cindy B |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 08:53 AM |
| 75.9.210.254 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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Hey guess what? I'm about to turn 55, and he's 60, and we set the sheets on fire every time we're together. He travels for a living so even though there's no longer kids in the mix, there's still a job that separates us. After a night or two, even our phonecalls get pretty steamy. As soon as he hits home, he calls and I'm there (37 miles) as quick as the old RAV4 will fly. We sometimes try to pretend we're mature and have dinner or something first. But usually there's a moment when we look at each other, and the food sits on the table getting cold while it waits for us. Can't even tell you how many movies have been put on pause and never returned to. It is awesome and just so hard for this granny to believe it's happening at my age. We sometimes laugh about what our kids are probably saying -- "Oh, isn't it wonderful that he/she has a companion now. Someone to go to dinner with or to a show." If they only knew! I'm blushing just thinking about it.
Do you suppose it has something to do with the fact that we are VERY worldy now, VERY experienced after our marriages, and know what we like or what we have always wanted to try? Or do you think it's just all about sexual compatibility and nothing else? All I really know is it is just so outstanding with this man, and I'm just sick -- SICK -- that so many years were wasted when I had the tight body and beautiful skin. Ha, ha!!!
| malone |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 08:59 AM |
| 125.237.110.244 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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Oh just stop....please. Show some mercy for those of us still separated, not divorced, and not dating. But wow I can empathise with the before part.
| Motor-Head |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 09:06 AM |
| 75.149.88.225 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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I feel really sorry for anybody that lived without a good sex life for years and years.
What a shame.
That’s one area that was never a problem in the past and the x agrees that we both matched perfect in that area. We still have a strong coonnection in this area to this day.
I fear it will never be the same with someone else.
| ATVILLAS |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 09:16 AM |
| 74.233.198.177 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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URGENT REQUEST!!
Could you girls going through this experience please leave a phone number!! I am in desperate need of "awakening" !!!
Going on 57 and suffering from CRS!!!
| boobaa |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 01:59 PM |
| 155.70.39.45 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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Look, I don't want to sound ignorant, but what is this "sex" thing that people keep talking about?
wait. . . . .
(Boo screws up face, deep in thought)
. . . .oh, yeah. . . . .YEAH!
WOO HOO!!!! I mean, um, uh. . .(straightens imaginary tie). . . I miss that part.
| norcal |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 03:18 PM |
| 64.71.24.66 |
Re: The Irony of it All
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Hmmmmm, wonder if primping imaginary articles of clothing is a symptom of the lack of ‘sex thing’?!?
| MarMcMar |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 04:11 PM |
| 12.19.225.242 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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Kimberly,
You could have been married to my ex. Mr. Ho-Hum, sexually speaking. I was practically a virgin when we married and existed 24 years in a state of sexually suspended animation. We rarely had sex, and then it was insert tab A into slot B. Every time.
I'm now 47 and have a new boyfriend. Like Cindy, it's a brand new world this time around. The sex is absolutely scorching, but more importantly - we're emotionally intimate, which leads to the great sex.
Your time will come. Take joy in what you have now with him.
And people? Never settle for less than fabulous. You deserve it!
Mari
| ATVILLAS |
| (Platinum) |
| 04/29/08 04:54 PM |
| 74.233.219.141 |
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And people? Never settle for less than fabulous. You deserve it!
Mari
My "fabulous" 3rd EX (10 years), decided it was time for me to move on, taught me more in 1 year than I had learned in 20, but alas she went through the "change" and I was part of it!
| jakandme |
| (Platinum) |
| 05/01/08 01:44 PM |
| 216.41.247.135 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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I'm with boo, I think I have sexnesia. I don't recall much about it. It was boring and a little awkward because I always initiated. DAMN where is my "awakening"....awful just awful. I guess I will just have to buy new batteries and go on with it. lol
| alister |
| (New) |
| 05/05/08 10:14 AM |
| 122.168.17.50 |
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Re: The Irony of it All
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Yes, I personally believe that you are right. I will pray to god that you get what you want.
God bless you!