delyhe
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Reged: 02/06/06
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I am not actually divorced. How do I know if this is the right choice for me and my family? My husband is going to throw the fact that "I am destroying our family." My children will be scared according to him. I have to wonder if they will be more scared because we are together. He is not a bad person but we are two TOTALLY different people and I don't agree with a lot of things he does. He cusses at my children. He doesn't help raising them. He doesn't help around the house. He doesn't even keep my youngest child on his days off because "he needs a day to rest." I work. I work very hard and I have my children (my choice completely) all the time I can. He does things that I don't want my children to learn or even know about. He has even fussed because I take my children to church. I don't know whether I am just totally square and I need to get over my selfish self or do I have real reasons to reevaluate our marriage. Please help? I would love to hear anyones ideas and theories on this.
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kota1967
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Reged: 01/26/06
Posts: 1480
Loc: New England
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Are the kids his? You keep referring to them as "my" kids...how do you and him get along outside of the kids? Do you still love him? Do you went to be with him? Maybe those are the questions you should be asking yourself....
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justplainwearie
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Reged: 01/16/06
Posts: 5
Loc: Pennsylvania
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hi, just wondering if you made any decisions yet. how old are your children? i have to admit, i also say "MY DAUGHTER" when i speak of OUR daughter. i have tried keeping this marriage together for many of the same reasons that it sounds like you have. my daughter is now 16, and she is totally messed up. i thought i was doing the right thing by staying here and unfortunately , after the damage is done, its too late. i am a mess, and she and i have both been in counseling. that might be your next course of action. you need to talk to a professional. if you cant afford it, there are many groups out there that meet regularly. i joined one at our local womens center. i am sooo glad i did, i am feeling soo much better. unlike your situation, my husband , after being together 20 years, decided he doesnt love me anymore and spends all his weekends at another womans house. i went thru a pretty rough time for awhile. however, i am feeling better and i know that the support group has helped me wonders. good luck and stay strong and stand your ground. you will not regret it in the end.
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melanie14
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Reged: 03/11/06
Posts: 3058
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Okay there is a reason why you are asking yourself these questions. It is so normal for the men to tell us we are destroying the family when actually they already have by there ridiculous behavior and not stepping up to the plate to be a good husband and father. I know you like to go to church but if you seek counsel there they may tell you that you need to stick with it because it's the biblical thing to do. However, if he is abusing you in any way, I don't think that's what God wants for you or your family. Try to be sure about yourself and do what's best for you and your family. Good Luck!!
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KHUDSON1967
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Reged: 06/26/06
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ask god to take over it helps all the time. god in the drivers seat will work. but dont get discouraged sometimes he is a slow driver.
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marlene1
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Reged: 07/01/06
Posts: 8
Loc: Canada
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These questions are not questions you should be asking on a site. You need professional help. Although everyone wants to help they are on this site for help as well. I will say it again you need to see a theripist and sort out your life first.
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KW1419
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Reged: 10/10/06
Posts: 3
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I have a question. First I am new to the site so I am not quite sure how to post a new question without replying to someone elses. I am going to have to do a notice of publication for my divorce, and I would appreciate any assistance in the wording. Ending a marriage is hard, but divorce is so much harder.
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