HangMeHigh
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Reged: 05/07/07
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My wife does things at the spur of the moment and does not stop to see the effects her actions may cause because of her mood swings, there really bad she has been put in a mental health hospital because of it. Two weeks ago she left the house with our 4.5 month old son and I thought everything would turn out ok cause she does this all the time but its not. A few days ago I waited outside of her work to well to tell you the truth spy on her and I noticed a guy she works with got into the car with her and they set in there for over 20 mins even though he wasn't off of work yet before he got out to go back in. I was pretty upset so the next day I went back and waited again to take pics of them messing around in her car, they did the exact same thing and I tried to take pics but they didn't turn out that well. Also, she has also been taking my son when she goes out with him I know because after I pissed her off enough she slipped and said something about it. All of this has happened but I still love her and I am willing to forgive her and work things out for the sake of my marriage and son if given the chance to. I was wondering that if some of you have myspace you could help me out by sending her a msg telling her that she need to work on her marriage and how bad divorces suck to go through, you can search for her account by email its jabbynathy@hotmail.com (don't try and email her I changed the pass because it my email to begin with.
If this dosn't work out what should I do when we go to custody court, will any of the things she has been doing effect the outcome of the judges decision in anyway? Also, how much would it be and should I higher a private investigater?
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stoltz
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Reged: 01/29/07
Posts: 1493
Loc: Texas
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Have you confronted her? Maybe tell her a friend of yours has spotted her with a another man in her car fooling around together with your child. If she denies it, you know she is lieing and could very well be holding back other stuff. If she breaks down and admits to it, you'll have to talk it out and make your own decision of the matter.
Based on just what you said, if it were me, I'd do the first thing I mentioned above. If she denied it, I would then tell her that the friend you spoke of was YOURSELF, so there was no impartiality involved - IOW, you saw it with your own eyes on more than one occasion.
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jbar
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Reged: 12/16/06
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I have a similar problem. My wife has schizophrenia, and I have learned that unless she does something to harm herself or another person, no amount of irrational or costly (to me) behaviour can be addressed by the legal system, in terms of making her get any treatment. Worse yet, I am told, if she DOES do anything to cause a judge to order her commitment, the full charges of the facility are my responsibility, and due and payable on receipt. BTW, these costs can range up to as much as $3,000.00 on some days, and average at least $1000,00 per day of confinement!
It seems to be a no win/ no win situation for a man with a mentally ill wife. If he manages to keep her from getting commited, he has to put up with her mad behaviour, and if he divorces her, she gets nearly everything he has-- because of her "medical needs", deriving from her mental difficulties!!
Edited by jbar (05/19/07 05:14 AM)
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