michiganmommy
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Hi,
I am getting back together with my daughter's biological father. The problem is that she is six years old and is very attached to her stepdad. What is the best way to handle this? Should I phase him out of her life slowly or all at once? She calls them both Daddy. I want to do what is best for my daughter but can't stay married to my second husband any longer. Thank you.
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theanswerguy
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It may be out of your hands , Michigan law allows an interested party ( ie step parent ) to request visitation if it's in the best interest of the child .
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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mistake#2
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In MI when I divorced my first husband I voluntarily gave visitation of MY daughter to him. I was told by both his attorney and mine that the only way he would get visitation is if I agreed being that she was not his child. Ex and I had a son together so I let her go on visits along with him. She too called him daddy. Eventually I too married her biological father(my #2 mistake) when she was almost six years old. By this time the first ex had distanced himself from my daughter on his own and she no longer wanted to go with him either. Funny thing is that the visitation papers still say she is to accompany our son on visits...don't know how they could ever enforce that considering her father didn't have a say in it but it has never become an issue.
My advice would be to offer visits if you think it's good for your child. However in doing so, be aware that things may change for everyone several years down the road and not holding yourself or your child to these visits by having them court mandated would be best.
Sometimes I wonder if my daughter feels abandoned by both fathers? In fact first ex gave back every baby picture he had of my daughter last week while we were in MI. It's too bad that he doesn't want to keep those memories.
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theanswerguy
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Stepparent's Right to Request Custody or Visitation
Michigan: Mich. Comp. Laws 722.27(1)(a) (1993) (court may award custody of child to one or more of the parties involved or to others); Mich. Comp. Laws 772.27(1)(b) (1993) (allowing court to grant visitation to any interested person if reasonable).
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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mistake#2
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Yeah, but how often is it actually done when refuted by a custodial biological parent? Then also what about the non-custodial biological parent that is now having to share their child with a third party to whom they didn't have an ongoing relationship with?
My attorney disagrees that such visitation would be ordered or enforced if not agreed to by all parties.
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michiganmommy
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My second husband is not the type of guy to try to take over custody of my daughter or fight for visitation although he loves her and I know he would want to see her. I doubt he would want court mandated visitation because if she wants to see him and he wants to see her, I would respect that. I am just wondering what is better for her in the long term. Thanks for the feedback!
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