I am posting this because I have no one else to talk to. I've left all my friends and family because my husband likes to volunteer for active duty all around the country.
We've been married for almost 12 years and we have 2 beautiful children together.
The problems started when he started abusing me very early into the marriage. At first I figured he was just stressed so I let it go. He used to call me all sorts of awful names and he actually tried to hit me a few times. I just cant undestand why he is so angry all of the time.
When our first child was born it just got worse. Whenever he would cry as an infant my husband would pick up the baby chair and scream in his face to shut up.
It gets ever worse. He's racked up 15-20 credit cards and all other sorts of debt and we have already been through one bankruptcy. He's admitted to cheating on me at least 3 different times and now he says he may be the father of one of these girl's babies who is now 6 years old. How awful!!
The story got worse and worse until one day I finally packed my bags while he was overseas, took the kids and moved back up to where I was originally from. At least I am now with friends and family.
I then told him I was finally leaving and I want a divorce. He didnt take the news very well and since then he has been making all sorts of threats. He calls and emails me at least 2-3 times a day screaming and yelling about how I am such an awful person. Not once does he ask how the kids are neither does he ask to talk to them.
A little while later I bumped into an old ex boyfriend from where I live. He was such a sweetie and we have gone out on a few dates. He is very good with my kids and he pays a lot of attention to them. I'm so excited to see him again after all these years.
Unfortunetly, my husband found out and now he is making physical threats to him as well and he tries to contact him on a daily basis too. He somehow got a hold of his phone number we dont know what to do.
My husband is currently a Staff Sergeant in the US army and some of my friends say he can get into serious trouble for what he is doing to me. He also has threatened to cut me off from his bank account which is how I currently feed the kids and pay his bills and credit cards. I'm so scared because if he does this I will not be able to take care of the kids.
Does anyone know what actions I should take at this point? I've been saving all of his nasty emails and I am wondering if I should send them to one of his high ups in the military. Can he get into trouble for harrassing me?
I'm not really into seeing him get into trouble, but I just want him to leave us alone and for us to talk rationally about the divorce. Is there anyway I can make sure he wont cut off his own children's finances so we can all eat?
"A little while later I bumped into an old ex boyfriend from where I live. He was such a sweetie and we have gone out on a few dates. He is very good with my kids and he pays a lot of attention to them. I'm so excited to see him again after all these years."
So you are still married, you moved away, are dating someone else, and he plays "daddy" when he's over?
Your husband may be a louse...but I can understand why he doesn't want to "finance" your lifestyle.
Excuse me sir. I'm looking to break this off clean and get child support. Who said anything about asking him to support my lifestyle?
I dont expect you to understand. My mother recently passed away and I've moved back to Ma. My decision to leave him occured before I met someone.
He's admitted to having 3 affairs while married to me over the past 12 years and he's been sing someone for the past 6 months.
Tell me, why do you judge so quickly?
I'm just looking for advice on how to proceed and what my options are as a SAHM for the past 12 years. I just want my children to have the basics while I try and find work.
I'm not looking for folks here who plan on making biased opinions. I'm looking for other women who have gone through a similiar situation and if they have any advice...
Let me get it straight. You guys are still married and you want to file divorce, right? Is he still active duty? If he is go on line to armyone.com or call 1-800-342-9647. They can help you. Give them a call they have a lot services free of charge that you can benefir from. You can always go to any millitary base and talk to their legal office and ask for legal advice as well. In the mean time, keep saving those emails and document any communicataion you guys might have. They might come in handy. It's better to be safe than sorry. ~Good Luck.
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