halffull
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Does anyone else out there have an ex-spouse who is pro se, and files motion after motion irregardless of being told by the judge to keep it out of court? My ex and I signed a stipulation to take any disagreements to a counselor who we agreed on, but still files motions to the court. I feel harassed by this behavior. Why should I comit to the agreement, but he obviously feels he doesn't have to when filing these continual motions. The judge doesn't do anything to stop it.
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smile4menow222
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Reged: 08/31/07
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Loc: Colorado
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Hi there, I just found your post when searching the web for someone that is going through this... I don't know what to do, but, yes, my ex is using the court system to harass me! He has the time and money to keep filing stupid motions. I am thinking that I am going to file a Contempt of Court using something from the final Divorce Degree to get him to leave me alone.
I would love to chat more about this... I think until I am in the gutter and homeless, he is going to keep harassing me. I can't take it anymore. He is causing me so much expense. He has an attorney... I do, maybe did... I can't keep throwing money at my attorney to fight these stupid issues. WE ARE DIVORCED! He just got remarried for the 4th time... I just got engaged... Somehow the attorneys and mediators don't think he is "over" me... wow!
Kathleen
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
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Loc: Colorado
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I assume these are frivolous motions; that he does not ever prevail on them. Two things you can try:
1/ Ask the court to have your ex pay your legal bills. If you too are pro se, get a lawyer so you'll have a bill to stick to him as a deterrent.
2/ File a contempt complaint based on his failure to use the mediator before filing. Be careful with this one; It may be putting out fire with gasoline.
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gigi
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He's had multiple post-divorce marriages? He's probably over you, but just is very litigious and has a favorite victim in you.
I went to a seminar a year ago that said there are some personality disorders associated with extreme litigiousness. These people go to court often, and not alwyas for divorces, but they'll go on other issues, too. Either by getting themselves sued & not being willing to reasonably settle, or by just feelign like everything can & should be settled by a lawsuit.
This is not necessarily a problem in ALL the people with those disorders, just that it's one of the ways those disorders can show up. An obsession with litigation, with argument, with winning the argument or debate.
OK... the big three were Sociopathic, Narcissistic, and Borderine personality disorders.
It might be worth it to you to look up these personality disorders and see if you can understand where he's comign from... not that you'll agree, just that you'll maybe be able to put 2 & 2 togehrer, come to realize that you really are NOT the problem (as he's probably been trying to convince you for years) and maybe figure out how to remove yourself from his target sights so that you are no longer his victim...
Unfortunately, there's not always a way to prevent this, but at least it feels better to understnad it. My husband's ex is one of these people, a Narcissist, and ... she just can't stop the argument... and we can't figure out how to get out of her sights without abandoning the kids, which would not be right fo rthem... so we simply count the days till the end of the tunnel (the last one graduating high school and ending the support gravy train that gives her teh incentive to continue the litigation) is in sight.
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