MommaMia
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[quote]I am not making this up. It's law in most states. Sometimes women get even more than half- be glad you didn't have any kids.
This is true in most states, except it goes both ways. There are many woman out there who are the primary breadwinners that end up in the same situation. And with over 60% of the university population being female, and more woman then men buying houses in the US in the last couple years, it will continue to grow. [/quote]
You are right Samsung. I didn't mean to generalize. :)
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WhatNext
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Reged: 10/11/06
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Because you put 100% down on the house, it's 100% sole & separate equity, so there's really nothing she desrves. Have her take the barbecue or whatever back. Or pay her for it, if she insists, but she does not get to get part of the house your Dad bought for you just because she managed to stay married to you for a few years after you got the house!
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What about this point of view?
With it being purchased before the marriage and also 100% a gift from a parent and it not being a long term marriage I hope that makes a difference.
I guess I'll have to wait to see what a judge says.
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gigi
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Wait & see. I get the feeling there are two different ways of counting things going on. and it depends upon what state you're from, mostly
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MommaMia
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i really hope I am wrong, but I bet you end up paying her something.
Let us know how it turns out please.
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WhatNext
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Reged: 10/11/06
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**********UPDATE*****
I know it's been over 6 months since this post but my divorce is finally coming to a close. Well after going to court for the preliminary hearing my STBX then decided she did not want to go back to court again and finally would talk settlement. I guess her lawyer finally got through to her and she accepted that she was not gonna get much out of this. Even the judge at the hearing said "this seems like it should be very simple and can and should be worked out between the 2 parties". We finally worked out a settlement, I gave her five grand to get the fu*k out of my life once and for all and her lawyer told her to accept it. That's it. We signed the papers yesterday and I can finally move on with my life.
She put me through hell though. You would think the person who walks out on the marriage (her) would want to settle things ASAP but she dragged this sh!t on for almost 2 years. She got pissed that I met someone new and moved on with my life. She got no spousal support and nothing from MY house.
She can have fun living in her tiny apartment scraping by just to pay her rent. The 5 grand I gave her to get the fu*k out of my life will cover just 5 months of her rent.LOL
I will never get married again.
I want to thank THE ANSWER GUY for his advice and all the other people who responded to my post. NOW I AM GONNA GO AND LIVE MY LIFE!!!
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What will I lose
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Reged: 05/21/07
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Loc: PA
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congrats! I cant wait to do my 6 month post and see if i'm in as good a shape as you are now.
enjoy!
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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theanswerguy
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Reged: 04/12/07
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You're very welcome . I'm glad it worked out well for you . Negotiation and compromise are always preferable .
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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WhatNext
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[quote]congrats! I cant wait to do my 6 month post and see if i'm in as good a shape as you are now.
enjoy! [/quote]
Thanks!
This divorce thing is the craziest sh!t I have ever had to deal with in my life. It sure can be ALL consuming. I can honestly say that getting married is the biggest mistake I ever made. And getting divorced is one of the best things I have ever done!!!
I wish you good luck in your situation and hope all turns out well for you.
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WhatNext
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[quote]You're very welcome . I'm glad it worked out well for you . Negotiation and compromise are always preferable . [/quote
I am sure your advice has helped MANY people on this board.
You are the voice of reason here. Are you a lawyer?
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
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Loc: NJ
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I'm wondering if that's what I should do to get my divorce over quickly. Offer some cash to be done and out. My stbx is piss poor, but he's the one who left the marriage, he's the one who racked up the bills. I think I just need to cut my losses and run. Pony up the cash and run. Plus, it would save some lawyers fees in the long run. I have no idea how my stbx is paying his lawyer! I just want to be done and over with this mess.
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