our divorce is to be final in oct after over a year.
stbx has live with gf/kids for months. then at some poing built rooms, remodeld bathrooms, ect in his home (which we both still own) for her and her kids and they all moved in.
he is now claiming to be over 50grand in debt, telling me he doesnt know what he'll be able to give me. claims his income has dropped over 30grand. (he's self employed and has an income that is within 5-10 grand each year) i should take what he can offer or ill get way less.
we have been married over 12years, i havent worked for 7 (sahm..kids) and he makes (well he DID) a decent income.
i am planning and working towards independance, but it will take me a good year to get a mediocre job, sell/buy a new home, etc.
the deal he offered me is pretty bad.
i can in NO way afford this home (marital home) or the taxes.
what do you speculate will happen due to the debt he acquired fixing up his home, and his sudden "drop" in income? i do NOT want to take advantage, and frankly if i could now id rather rely finacially on myself. but that will take time.
now im nervous.
he knows im asking for a fair share of the business equity, an equal part of both our homes, alimony and cs.
he claims theres not money for this stuff and it wont happen.
my attorney has a 'hard hitting' reputation. maybe he finally figured that out.
anyone know what i should mentally get prepared for?
taryn...whose kids are already on free lunches after having previously lived off an almost 6 figure income...sigh...i cant wait till this is over!
Your lawyer should try to hold the line and fight for a settlement based on the financial conditions that existed at the time of your filing. Your STBX should be held solely responsible for his new debt and his ability to pay support should be based off his prior income or a 3-year average.
What a shame! I feel for you as having gone through it all before. Prepare yourself for the worst...anything better will be a blessing. Stay informed and keep your attorney in the know with all that is going on. You may want to keep a journal as well of conversations etc.
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