Divorce Support Forums: posting for a friend

My stbx and I were married in May 1995. The condo we were living in was purchased by me before we were married. I had also purchased some land before our marriage. We bought this house in 1998 I sold the land for the down payment. The rest of the down payment was a gift from my mother for $10,000. My stbx made no contribution to the down payment. In 1999 We had to sell the condo because we filed bankruptcy. My stbx was responsible for this as she ran up credit cards to gamble. At that time she signed a quit claim deed of this house. My stbx did not work for 6 Years as she stayed home to be with our son who is now 11.

In May, 2005 we decided to dissolve the marriage. We were going to do this ourselves to avoid attorney fees. This was at the advice of a counselor. I refinanced the house and got $34000
equity. My stbx got the whole amount of the equity. She actually forged my name on the check.
Her name was not on the check. She deposited it into a joint account, however we agreed she would be the only user. The papers never got filed with the courts. She signed another quit claim deed at that time. We also agreed child support would be $350 a month. Since my house payments were going to be raised.
At the time she was leaving I didnt know she was moving in with a man she had been seeing for awhile. They bought a house in Henderson. Although his name is the only name on the house, she made a withdrawal of $20,000 from the joint account towards the purchase of that house.
That house is now for sale as they split up in November 2006.

In November 2006, My stbx overdrew the joint account that I literally forgot all about and my account was charged for this amount of $1,000. I asked her if she was going to pay me back and she said “sue me”

I filed for Divorce in dec 2007. However, it was a mistake and he sat on the fence. I paid him $2000. We went to court for custody and visitation which was already decided. Although the stipulations are not clear I could never get ahold of my attorney without being charged more. He never answered my questions regarding the house, the visitation. The child support was raised to the guidelines and put into effect right away. I fired my attorney in August 2007 because nothing was getting done on the case. I have been in contact with rights for divorced
dads. However, I havent actually retained an attorney. I recently found out she fired her attorney too. However before I found this out, she told me her attorney told her she could get this much. She wants to settle this out of court. I do too because its going to cost a lot more money. She is now asking for $13000 more. I would like to know what the courts would say I owed her if anything? How do they figure this out. The house is now worth about $200,000. Does she get the equity as of todays date or the date she moved out?

There is also the question of my pension. She is making more than I am now. Does she get ½ of my pension for the time she was unemployed? Do I get any of her pension?
Shouldnt I get anything from the house in Henderson she bought with this guy since the money was from the refinance? Does anyone know how this all works?