kmr88
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My wifes intentions are to move out of state if and when our house ever sold. When we did our divorce agreement I reluctantly agreed to this because of wanting to relocate in state myself for what I percieved at the time to be therapeutic in "moving on" and to go back to an area where I lived previously. The agreement stated we would both prepare the house for sale and split proceeds. Because of the market the house is not selling keeping my wife in Florida, for which at present, I'm sort of grateful because my kids are in Florida, however, what happens if the house does not sell in say a year or more. She and the children live there obviously, but what, if any,action should be taken on my part?? I now realize it was a very stupid mistake on my part to agree to this move. She has a great job in Florida (outearns me) and wants to move to be closer to friends and to live in a small town.
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MommaMia
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You will have to get the agreement changed and have some good reasons.
I hope you see your kids a lot, as this may be what saves you.
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divorce1
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Is the agreement in the papers or just verbal?
Also what age are the children?
Did you have seperate legal advice from her or use the same lawyer?
How far is she talking of kmoving and how bad will this affect you seeing the children?
In FL all this matters. So before giving my opinion and what my lawyer has told me so far in simular things I need to know thee answers.
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kmr88
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Are you knowledgeable about this kind of situation beyond the average person?? Just curious. I am moving back the same town my children live in because I obviously miss them. I've only been gone 2 1/2 months and due to unfortunate personal circumstances on my end have not seen them as much as I could (4.5 hrs.away) I have seen them on the planned visits we had set-up but I canceled a week-end here where i am and went there to see my Doctor...it shortened the visit. You must understand this was something I couldn't change at the time. We have not formally set up a visitation schedule but that will change immediately. I am extremely srained, and wore down about the situation esp. since being in different towns, and am extremely worried that I have somehow lost a lot of the relationship a father should have with his kids. I have been making my CS payments, (FYI). I plan to work on it. I say all this to emphasize that I don't want to have to deal with being separated like that if i can help it and may even attempt to petition her out of state move but don't really know how much of an Affect it would have on a judge. She does not have to move.....her family is in FL 1 1/2 hrs. away, has an excellent career, she wants to be near a friend. I have a good attorney but excess funds are drying up and would be much better spent on child support. The kids seem fine w/ evrything which also crushes me at times...but they are, 10 and 13, they would also be fine with staying put. My daughter will start high school in a year. Just wondering what,if anything i could do w/ a petition. I am extremely saddened and confused and looking for options.
Signed "Not OK w/ This Now"
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kmr88
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Thanks for posting. Unfortunately it is in the papers. I had separate legal counsel. The first chapter to this story is in a previous post. The children are 10, and 13. She would be moving roughly 4.5 to 5 hrs. away. In my opinion it would greatly complicate my seeing the children. Obviously you will do whatever..and 5 hrs. is nothing to some people. I just feel it is unnecessary and not a priority or "moral support" issue for her. It also greatly bothers me that after 14 yrs. of marriage she pre meditated the whole thing before filing. She is not a bad person which totally blows me away that someone would even think about pulling this...it seems abnormal to me. I seem to be the only one suffering from all of this because obviously nothing in her life has changed except me not being there.
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kmr88
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It is also in the papers that we split the proceeds from the house. Her big defense is she can't afford to live where she is presently. I think it must be an angle for me to consent or give on something the more I think about it, however just like the majority of people on here, my whole life, savings, equity, etc.,etc. is in the house and we both are struggling financially. Both incomes in the 40's.
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