Spadea
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I filed for divorce in September. Prior to I not only have proof via phone records and text message logs but also have a complete breakdown of the details and activities given to my in writing by my wife of her 5 month long affair. We went to months of marriage counseling which did not work since the affair was on-going and still continues to this day. There are two young children involved and she has already involved them on numerous occassions with her boyfriend.
I am pretty well versed with the PA divorce laws but does any of this help me with either alimony, child custody, asset division or the likes in the divorce? She also "stole" thousands of dollars out of our joint checking account to pay for her own material items and have left us, pretty much near bankruptcy.
At $450 per hour, I was wondering if anyone could help me versus spending this amount with my attorney to get his advice. Thank.
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menace
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From my experience(same deal as you) it will hellp you when it comes to alimony. If you can provide info about the cheating(i.e pictures, emails...)then you should now be paying her APL not alimony. Reason being,after divorce is final she is no longer able to get APL-because of the adultry. Alimony she can get, but APL she cannot. As for custody-each case is different, I doubt the adultry will help but it sure wont hurt. Hope i helped out.
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Spadea
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The affair is completely documented not only with records but writings she has given to me. There is no question. How can I get out of paying alimony? I assumed allimony was a guarantee no matter what the circumstances, especially since she is a stay at home mother.
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menace
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Do you pay her any type of alimony at all? Do you pay alimony pendite lite?
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Spadea
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Not at the alimony stage as of yet. I pay the mortgage, credit lines, insurance and school. Also have been giving her $3500 a month in support/custody payments. I have paid $2500 for her attorney's retainer fee.
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menace
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Why did you pay her atty fee? My stbx took me to domestic courts while I was paying all the bills. So i was ordered to pay spousal support and child. Once the divorce is final she will lose the spousal support because of the adultry. She will not get alimony after the divorce and Ive been married for 9 1/2 yrs. So your case seems to be a little different.
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Spadea
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No allimony after the divorce is final? Can that be true. She is a professional stay at home mother who never stays at home but choses to have babysitters raise our children. Just so frustrating that I have to pay to enable her to live her lavish lifestyle. For Christmas she bought herself (with the money I gave her for the month) a $572 purse for which I have the receipt as proof.
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menace
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From my understanding, there will be no alimony after the divorce because of the adultry! However she can drag the divorce on so that you continue to pay. Are you paying alimony or APL? There is a difference. Im paying APL meaning at the end of the divorce she will no longer get spousal support. My STBX did the filing but wont sign the papers, how bout that!
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Spadea
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I am currently paying support and other expenses such as the mortgage, health care, childrens school, etc. It worked out to exactly 110% of my income and we are working on getting that changed with the help of a new attorney. I just cannot imagine that, beyond child support and asset division she would be entitled to alimony as well. I believe I understand that alimony is not to be used as income from which to live but to be used as support to help supplement her expenses until she can find a job. She has plans to remain a stay at home mother for the next three years and I don't understand why I should be on the hook to pay for this, especially in light of her long-term affair.
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menace
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If you have children under 5 yrs of age she is not required-once again by our great state law- to get a full time job. Total horsesh!t. Ive learned what is sensable is not the law.
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