Divorce Support Forums: Adultry in PA

I have plenty of proof of the affair including her admissions in writing. I have more than enough documentation of the where, when, how long, etc. I even have documentation from the babysitter she used detailing her ventures outside the home, phone records, text messages, notes, credit card receipts, a detailed time line from her. And you know what this means, absolutely nothing. No one ever files for a fault divorce in PA i guess it just never happens. It could take years, from what I am told and is basically frowned upon by the court systems.

Which leaves me where I am today, $40K in debt, paying her over $8k per month in CS, Spousal Support, mortgage payments, childs tuitions, Home Equity Credit Lines, etc. which currently equals 114% of my monthly salary. I live in a one bedroom apartment I rent from a friend at a huge discount, she lives in a six bedroom home which is currently on the market for $1.2 million which should have been on the market months ago but she choose to interview five separate Realtors until she found the one that she approved of. She refuses to sign the tax return which will cost me an additional $7702 between the difference of my refund and what I will owe filing separately.

She has primary custody of the kids but over the last three weeks, I have had them 42% of the time, her 34% of the time and the remaining time they are with babysitters and a daycare - did I mention to you she is a "Stay at Home Mother" who is so struggling that she just hired a personal trainer at $1200 per month? She bought herself a $572 purse for Christmas, went on a ski vacation and paid for herself and her boyfriend (not the one she had the 7 month affair with, yet a new one to introduce to our children). And to top it all off, in the three weeks we have had an actual custody order in place with the courts she has violated the "right of first refusal" for overnight visits twice and two other clauses at least once - and laughs in my face when it is brought up in the course of conversation.

To make things even better, I am not allowed to enter the house without her permission -which she no longer gives me under any circumstances and over the last two weekends has been taking all of the possessions out of the house to be stored at her parents house because, as she tells me, everything in the house is currently hers and until the courts tell her to divide up the assets she will continue to take them home until there is nothing left but the cat.

Sorry to vent, but this is not exactly what I signed up for when I could no longer take the fact my wife had a boyfriend with a 1-yr. old and 4-yr. old at home.