InOhio
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Reged: 02/22/06
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Went to an attorney to start divorce process. A month has passed & she *still* has not contacted me to come in to sign my papers so they can be filed with the courts (I have called 3 times). I think this an excessive amount of time & I need to get things moving *NOW* (for reasons not explained here) & I have already wasted a precious month waiting on her. Is this a "normal" amount of time to wait between contacting the attorney w/ information & actually getting it filed? And can/should I: A) get my money back from her in order to go to another attorney to get things moving faster & B) if & when things get filed, how long do I have to wait in Ohio for the final decree if it is uncontested (what are the file/wait/appear in court/etc. steps & times if any)? Reason for divorce - willful desertion of 3+ years. Thanks to anyone who can help me out here.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
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Loc: Colorado
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Attorneys are like contractors. They have a tendancy to take on more work than they can get done promptly. The urgent stuff gets done. The other stuff is left age to the point where it becomes urgent.
Don't be shy about creating a sense of urgency for your attorney. Don't be shy about calling frequently to follow-up. Three times in a month is nothing. Three times in a week might start to be effective.
You can look for a different attorney. The ones who are not so overcommited are usually much less competent, much more expensive or aren't taking new clients.
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InOhio
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Thanks for the advice. I'll see what I can do. I'm hating this "waiting" game. Any info on once filed, how long things take? Am I going to have to wait months again?
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KGrow
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Loc: Colorado
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Different states have different "cooling off periods" that must elapse between filing and final decree. I beleive it is 90 days here in Colorado.
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pshoemaker
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Reged: 02/21/06
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Loc: Ohio
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I too needed my divorce in a hurry and it took me 6 months to get it done. I don't know your circumstances but my ex wanted his cake and to eat it too. He got another woman pregnant and wanted to be with her and be with me and our 6 children so every time we went to court he would disagree with everything that we had agreed to before we went to court. Then to top it off we were going to do shared custody with are children the day before we were to go for final hearing he decided he wanted me to have sole custody. So the paperwork had to be changed before our 9am day in court. Then when the judge asked us if we each agreed that we were incompatible he disagreed. What a jerk! Needless to say I did get my divorce that day but it took 6 months of going back and fourth.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
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Loc: Colorado
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Six months is actually fairly quick for a non-amicable divorce. Mine took 18 months.
No matter how long you give it, it is typical for things to get crazy at the last moment.
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free again
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Reged: 07/01/07
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My lawyer told me an uncontested divorce in Ohio takes 45 days from the day it is filed. we had agreed on everything and I thought it was going to go well until his girlfriend found out how much alimony he has to pay. then he started fighting. It took almost 2 years. I ended up with the same amount. he just wasted a lot of money on lawyers.
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chattycthy
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Reged: 07/21/07
Posts: 53
Loc: Ohio
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I am having the same problem. Sometimes I think the waiting helps you get all your ducks in a row emotionally. We each have a financial adviser and high profile attourneys. I filed May 21st after waising 2 months on a problem with the dissolution. His attouney is taking a vacation the month of OCT..our final hearing is Nov 19th. If we don't settle out of court by then it will go to trial. I have called my attourney several times and despite giving everyone money I still don't have anyone asking me a thing about the divorce. No offers on the table about anything. What is my problem?? My bank accounts are frozen, I get 1900 a month for CS for my 3 kids. I work which provides another 350. dollars/week. I am spending nearly all of that to survive. The kids just started school and I paid for all of it. My credit card is loaded with attourney fees that I won't be able to pay off easily after the divorce if it keeps on like it is. He is happy to be living in the basement despite the fact he has a boyfriend and goes out with him every night. The fights in our house are horrific when they occur. I feel sorry for the kids and wish he would move out but of course his attorney has told him not to. I have temporary custody and he pays the bills. I am so frustrated it's like I am now emotionally exhausted. My attourney said that as long as he doesn't assault me he is allowed to stay in the marital residence. I don't think he even knows what he is doing after he leaves here. The house if for sale and not moving. I wonder what will happen at the next hearing if it doesn't sell. I think he is gonna buy me out..but he said he won't do anything unless his attourney tells him to do so. Neither of us want the house as he doesn't need the room and expense of a 4 BR home with a pool and I can't afford it on my measly salary. I dont want to leave my part time job for full time as I want to return to college to get my self a higher paying position. He has the high profile attourney in Columbus named Grossman and it is evident they are stalling. He has moved money and anything else to protect himself and I refuse to stoop down to his level! Im sure I will get the shaft by them..but I will feel good about myself in the long run and survive this nightmare. Does anyone have advice for me to speed things up? I have called my finacial guy for the report 3 times and haven't seen it yet. I was promised a report on my earning potential from my STBX's and haven't gotten that either. Its frustrating! I feel like his attourney is stalling till early Nov to send their demands to my attourney and then they will ask for more info or whatever..then say they aren't ready for the hearing and push it back or something. Is this what is going to occur?? Both our attorneys seem tooooo busy. I have already fired one attourney and am just gonna finish with this one. If patience is supposed to be a virtue I think I am becoming more and more virtuous by the day!
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Can't wait to start my life over again! Im gonna take a lot less crap next time!!
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Samsung
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I'm a little confused from your post. You said you get $1900 month in CS and $1400 in wages, or $3300/month, but then said your husband lives in the basement, and pays all the bills....and that you are charging your attorney bills to a credit card. In other words, you have $3300/month, and are paying nothing, except for some recent school bills? Please elaborate.
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chattycthy
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Reged: 07/21/07
Posts: 53
Loc: Ohio
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Yeah you have the facts right..but i pay for all the child expenses plus my expenses. Food, sports, dr visits, gas for mine and my son's car. I have three teenage boys who eat alot! Seriously it doesn't go very far. I bought a few school clothes, new shoes for them too.
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Can't wait to start my life over again! Im gonna take a lot less crap next time!!
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taryn
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Reged: 05/31/07
Posts: 2461
Loc: standing on the mountaintop! :...
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sigh. i kind of want your current deal...
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Samsung
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Well, I live on 1/2 what you do with 2 teens, and am doing ok. Although, I do stretch every 2 dollars probably into 3. For example, I buy $150 worth of groceries every 10 days or so...but usually get it to $100 after coupons. There are many ways to be more efficient with your money.
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chattycthy
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Reged: 07/21/07
Posts: 53
Loc: Ohio
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Okay..I will get creative and try to save the coupons. Any other ways you have to cut costs?? I need to buy a house.
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Can't wait to start my life over again! Im gonna take a lot less crap next time!!
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