liberated
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I have an interesting situation developing. We are in a very large church and I have been involved in the food ministry for many years. I help in most church dinners, retreat functions, etc. Well, about 5 years ago a new man came to the church. He is single and all about food  He works for Blue Bell ice cream as his day job and also has a BBQ business on the side. We have worked together for a long time and always gotten along great. He is generous, a loving Godly man, but always appropriate. I don't want anyone getting the wrong idea. I was certainly attracted to him, but kept him at arms length because I knew it could be trouble.
My teen son has worked for him when he had catering jobs and last spring I helped with a job or two as well. All of my children love him because he truly pays attention to them. He's like the cool uncle and he has won their hearts.
Now that I am alone, he has been helping with things like getting the Christmas lights up, moving furniture for me with his pickup, and now he's going to help me paint this weekend. It is obvious that the attraction is mutual and he is much more flirty now that I am available. No profession of love or even a real date...but the chemistry is there and we have been friends for a long time so I know how compatible we are. We work very well together.
My children love having him around and no one has asked anything yet. I'm wondering how this will play out since it's so different than dating and THEN having the guy meet the kids. He has watched my kids for 5 years. He said that was one of the first things he noticed about me, my little ducks following me around the church and sitting so nicely in the service.
Anyway, I dont' know that I necessarily am asking for advice...but it's kind of exciting to share and most IRL friends would tell me it's WAY TOO SOON. But I didn't go out looking for him, God just put his truck in my driveway
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5yrsonlyfair(
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Well, just sit back and enjoy the ride.
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I may not know what I want, but I know its not this.
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ATVILLAS
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Well, just sit back and enjoy the ride.
I agree, just go slow. Seems like it is an alround win win right now, you should enjoy the moment.
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Solorider
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Keep the truck in the driveway and not in the garage...at least for now. You can know someone for a long time and then once things become intimate...they change. Just be careful. But who knows really...this all could lead to something really great!
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liberated
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Keep the truck in the driveway and not in the garage...at least for now. You can know someone for a long time and then once things become intimate...they change. Just be careful. But who knows really...this all could lead to something really great!
THis is probably good advice which I will heed...
and I have a long way to go of clearing Ex's stuff before any vehicle will fit in the garage...maybe a built in safety net?
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Kimberley
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hardhurt
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Reged: 01/26/07
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Loc: NJ
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short cuts are so great, we are always happy when we find one....go for it, be happy ,live again
happy holidays
andy
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"The only worthwhile accomplishments...are victories we win over ourselves"
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Nish
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Reged: 02/18/07
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Pay attention to what your body and instincts tell you. You have come so far already. If it feels right and you enjoy each other's company, what is the harm?
Enjoy this great friend and see what unfolds. Just be yourself and let God guide you along your path.
Merry Christmas,
Nish
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Cindy B
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God didn't put his truck in your driveway, this man did. He is obviously into you. Enjoy the attention and flirtation. This is the fun part!
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"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"
- Oscar Wilde
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learninglife1
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Reged: 11/01/07
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Loc: oregon
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My blessings dear, You have every reason to pursue this relationship cuz FEW MEN ARE GODLY MEN and even fewer want to be responsible for raising another mans brood. God is good and loves us all. Realize that you can open that door, but don't fear for God in the Spirit of Christ is with you and will guide you both and protect you. Give this man a little encouragement and ask his motives,when he answers, if your eyes well up with tears of JOY it is a blessing from the GREATEST source possible. MERRY CHRISTMAS, I may be in the same place with a lady I have yet to meet, but my 2 girls have given their injured daddy their blessing.
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"I did not choose to become the person I am , I became that person by the choices I made".
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saamrodi
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"Anyway, I dont' know that I necessarily am asking for advice...but it's kind of exciting to share and most IRL friends would tell me it's WAY TOO SOON. But I didn't go out looking for him, God just put his truck in my driveway "
...then again in situations like these, I say keep going with the flow hun. Every situation is different and I joyfully read your post knowing that things can work even quicker, clearer, and with tons of promise with God involved. **huge smile for you**
No, it wasnt planned, so why try to plan now? Just go with it.....WOW! ltm
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"A man must not deny his manifest abilities, for that is to evade his obligations." ~W.F.~
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