vivian
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if one more guy tries to shove his tongue down my throat after buying me a drink at a bar (or after not buying me a drink at bar) I'm never leaving my house again.
Also, if one more guy mentions sex in the 1st 5 minutes of conversation, same thing.
(went to a singles party last night...and that was basically the scene...and that's basically the scene every where / every night)
I'm really down right now. Miss my ex. Miss my relationship. Angry that someone else woke up with him today, and they exchanged presents and i love you's. I am headed off to a friend's holiday brunch...there will be a mix of married with children folks, engaged folks, and a couple of single friends (girls and a guy we believe is about to come out). I just don't know if I can handle playing with babies today and hearing about wedding plans. I'm going though. I have the week off, and cant stay by myself all week.
Edited by vivian (12/25/07 12:51 PM)
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Sarah1014
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Hardknox seems to enjoy it!
"And my long-time (>20 years) friend in Shipping. When she comes to my office to give me my Christmas kiss and rams her tongue down my throat, it's OK if I enjoy that, right? Is it OK if I ram my tongue down her throat and grab HER ass too?"
Too funny. Sorry, I couldn't resist!
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hardhurt
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viv,
I get that way too...cant stand when a guy tries to shove his tongue down my throat....with or without the drink...
handcuffs suck
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sunshine
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HAhaha...just don't pick up that bar of soap..hahaha
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vivian
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A -
I'm serious. Men have no clue. They would get a lot further a lot faster if they back off and don't treat every girl who stands next to them at the bar like a piece of *ss.
Don't try to grope me five minutes after we've met... and... maybe you'll get my number and maybe we'll go out and maybe I'll like you and maybe, maybe I'll feel like swapping spit (sorry) with you.
I miss the sweetness of my ex. I can't deny it anymore. I'm so tired of not being with him, and trying to meet these other men who pale in comparison. I'm not idealizing him, I know his faults, but he wasn't foul-mouthed, or low-brow, or dumb, or lazy, or hairy, or balding, or fat, (sorry guys who are) or whining, or ... he was the best thing that ever happened to me and I lost him and I can't fix it.
Edited by vivian (12/25/07 10:26 PM)
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adrenaline
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I hate to say it but maybe you should look for a higher caliber of man. You say that your husband is better in comparison, but would he hang out a single's bars? The produce section might net you a better man.
I agree men at meat markets are there for one thing. I hate to say it but it gets harder the older we get.
Here is my suggestion. Don't try so hard to replace your husband. Just live your life as you do -quit going to bars and you will attract a classier man. Here is the deal though it may take a while, but I guarantee it will be way worth it. Take the time to grieve give yourself that. That is OK. Re-Learn to like yourself and I promise someone quality will like you.
Hang in there. Please don't settle for a throat licker you are better than that.
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ATVILLAS
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Theres a lot of guys like your ex out ther, problem is they are ex's and likely gun shy!
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Sarah1014
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Quote:
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I'm serious. Men have no clue. They would get a lot further a lot faster if they back off and don't treat every girl who stands next to them at the bar like a piece of *ss.
Don't try to grope me five minutes after we've met... and... maybe you'll get my number and maybe we'll go out and maybe I'll like you and maybe, maybe I'll feel like swapping spit (sorry) with you.
I miss the sweetness of my ex. I can't deny it anymore. I'm so tired of not being with him, and trying to meet these other men who pale in comparison. I'm not idealizing him, I know his faults, but he wasn't foul-mouthed, or low-brow, or dumb, or lazy, or hairy, or balding, or fat, (sorry guys who are) or whining, or ... he was the best thing that ever happened to me and I lost him and I can't fix it.
Huh? What? Your X was a wolf in sheep's clothing. He cheated on you. He talked a good game. He was NOT the best thing that ever happened to you. He was the worst. Thank God you lost him. Now he can wreck havoc with the homewreckers life.
This very thing happened to me. I was fooled for a very long time by a manipulative ass. Now he's manipulating the dumb hillbilly that he cheated with. I'M the one coming out on top here.
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Solorider
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sounds like you're hanging out in the wrong bars.
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kent
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Wait .... you mean shoving my tongue at someone is not a good pickup move?
How about rolling a toothpick?
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Solorider
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Wait .... you mean shoving my tongue at someone is not a good pickup move?
How about rolling a toothpick?
Only if you also have a cigarette behind your ear.
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aramis_wc
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Viv, there are guys out there that are gentlemen and wouldn't dream of doing that until the relationship gets serious. I was brought up to respect people and that no means no. Problem is that the nice guys have been kicked around so much that WE don't leave the house much. We concentrate on our relationships that stuck by us during the hard times...it's much safer there. I would like another relationship in the future after my healing is done but I'm a little apprehensive about it. Keep yer chin up and don't be discouraged. The good guys are out there.....
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Cindy B
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Viv -- you know I love you, but I 100% agree with Sarah here, and with Adrenaline, too. I really wish you would take off the rose-colored glasses where your X is concerned. He's a liar and a cheater and the sooner you see that the quicker you will move on.
I agree that a singles bar is maybe not the best place to meet a true-blue guy. A lot of people in those places, of both sexes, are simply on the make. They assume everybody else is there for the same reason.
Be optimistic. Stop comparing every man you meet to your X. And look more deeply at the decent men you do meet. They may not have perfect teeth, or a perfect body or face. They might not be your ideal, but they might be the perfect man to love you perfectly. And in a way you have never experienced before. Be optimistic, and be open.
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