I know my Ex has no capacity to be alone. She was seeing me before her first divorce papers were done. I'm pretty sure she was talking/seeing someone else before I had the curage to get out. She's had at least two relationships with almost getting married this past year and after that fell through it looks like she's got someone else on the line. Me I've got trouble getting out to meet anyone and it's been almost two years final. Everyone's different and it happens on both sides.
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THIS is so true I can't possibly explain it fully. It's very common for an unreasonable stbx to find out what thier rights are, then try to convince you to do stuff without a lawyer, saying they're trying to save you both the price of a huge legal battle, and convince you that what you're doing is good for you and the child & the debt & etc. You will never know the difference if you don't find out. Some people find out years later that they got cheated during the divorce, but I've gotta say that if they didn't bother to find out the real story from a lawyer (or at least from looking up the situation in an online support calculator, for example), they've got no right to complain.
PLEASE put yours and his income and the custody arrangement into an online support calculator and see HOw much of a bargain the $400 a month is going to be for him. Nice of you to want her to live in a nice place those 5 days a month she spends with him, but the other 25-26 days a month, she has to be with you, and she should ALSO have a nice place when she's with you. Please just find out what's considered fair in your jurisdiction and have the inforamtion in your mind while you're negotiating.
My ex did not move on-he moved his sister in with him. She stayed for 6 months. In my ex's case-he was spoiled. I did it all. He never lifted a finger. I think he is more angry that he has to do things like laundry and vacumning. Now that the sister is gone-my son says the place is a pigpen. My son does his own laundry, dishes, cooks his own food and vacumns (he is 11). I guess it is good that he does those things-but at my house he does different chores that do not include cooking his own dinner. By the way, his dinner of choice is frying french fries and making donuts!
My ex will have a hard time finding a woman who will do everything I did. He hasn't found one yet and I have been praying hard for a year that he would.
And by the way, my ex never admitted or acknowledged that I would be hard to replace-if he had we might not be divorced.
-------------------- Message for my ex "I think you know by now, I'm not the person I used to be"
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