MarMcMar
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I won't hijack "What this Forum is for" but HK brought up and interesting topic: Dating fellow forum members.
I have a lot to say about Forum relationships.
In some ways they are like the relationships (forbidden) that pop up at AA meetings. Two hurting people, not really ready to date, comrades in arms due to both being dumped, find each other and intensely connect.
I have had two such relationships. The first (e-mail and phone only) was very early on pre-d. It flamed up quickly and faded just as fast. We were geographically and age-wise incompatible. It really hurt (ego bash) when it ended.
We have remained friends and our friendship has exceeded both our wildest dreams. We're each other's "go to" guy in matters of the heart. If I ever get married again, he'll be my best man. We advise each other on fashion, (well, me him) kids and dates, spirituality - everything.
The second lasted five glorious months. I began it as a lark. It was very improbable and I gave it no chance at all (given our differences). It brought me back to life and when it ended (we were at different places in our healing) I grieved.
We're back to being friends, though I think we may have a second act : )
I have seen a few Forum relationships go sour. One big thing to remember is not to publicly air your love affair & the details. That's very dicey and hard, when at the beginning you want to tell the world. It's horrible at the end when you want help from your friends here, but don't want to expose your "ex" to more pain.
Step carefully, have ground rules and things can be wonderful.
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Cindy B
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This all sounds like really good advice. Thanks, Mari.
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"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"
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Solorider
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Loc: At the bottom of the bucket.
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I'm writing a book about all the forum relationships I've had...it begins:
"It was a dark and stormy night....."
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MarMcMar
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Loc: Western New York
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How's this for a conversation topic: Sight unseen, who would you date from this forum and how would it play out?
Me & HardKnox: Mad passionate love affair that devolved when I bit*ched at him to pick up his hunting clothes and put the gd'd seat back down.
Me & Rob from Mich: We'd have awesome parties until I got sick of picking up the empties and stepping on the beerpong balls.
Me & Kent: Fabulous dinner parties but continuously fighting over the menu and what tablecloth to use and the order of the silverware. Lots of slammed doors.
Anyone else care to take the plunge?
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HardKnox
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Loc: Wisconsin
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Me & MarMcMar: Mad passionate love affair producing multiple, cataclysmic orgasms for both parties until HardKnox chronically gets up to leave at 3:00AM for hunting / fishing. Pooting / farting / belching becomes an issue early. (Better clean up your act Mari.) HK tossed out on ear.
Me & PinkRose: Mad passionate love affair producing multiple, cataclysmic orgasms for both parties until HardKnox chronically gets up to leave at 3:00AM for hunting / fishing. PinkRose soon gets fed up with HK's eighteen beer per day consumption. HK tossed out on ear.
Me & cwag: Mad passionate love affair producing multiple, cataclysmic orgasms for both parties until HardKnox chronically gets up to leave at 3:00AM for hunting / fishing. HK mistakes cwag's accumulation of driftwood, bark etc set aside for artistic purposes as kindling and uses it to start a campfire in the living room. HK tossed out on ear.
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PinkRose
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HK, you just keep me laughing and it feels so damn good!!!
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Cindy B
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Loc: TX
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Left out again. Dammit!
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"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"
- Oscar Wilde
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ATVILLAS
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Loc: Lost in the post D maze!!
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If it wasn't for these forums I wouldn't have any relationships and I haven't even met anyone from here in person.
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mrpat
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Loc: Michigan
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You were starring at my picture just like Knox.........all of ya better stop it. I not lookin to cross the fence. I'm thinking my internet girlfriend should be a girl. Just kiddin don't want the next picture with something dead to be me...........damn I'm dumb.
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hardhurt
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Loc: NJ
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Quote:
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Left out again. Dammit!
Cindy, I would give you a spin in a heartbeat....but you might not ever let me go home 
A
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