ljlost
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forum relationships.........HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM. Not the best idea. You first have to figure out if they are playing with a full deck!!
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sunshine
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I'll take your word on that topic...not to many full decks around huh!..hahaha
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ljlost
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No comment Sunshine. no comment!
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cwag
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HK mistakes cwag's accumulation of driftwood, bark etc set aside for artistic purposes as kindling and uses it to start a campfire in the living room. HK tossed out on ear.
too funny!!! i'd have sacrificed the driftwood, hk, but, first of all, darling, it usually works a little better if you start the fire IN THE FIREPLACE when you're INSIDE, as opposed to piling up all that kindling in the middle of the rug. and while i admit dinner cooked over an open flame is wonderful, it too works just a tiny bit better OUTSIDE.. not to mention your quaint little method for putting the fire out...definatly an outdoor activity..
just can't housebreak those hunters can you??
once we get that outside/inside thing cleared up you might be a keeper ;-)
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there will come a time when you believe everything is finished. that will be the beginning.
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Heidi
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Interesting Topic MMM,
I have made a few wonderful friends on the forums but have no interest in any kind of love match. I think and belive most of us are in various part of our journeys. Some are at the end of the Divorce Journey and some only beginning.. the rest are somewhere scattered in the middle.
To me it would not be fair to start a relationship with somebody that is not at least further along or at least with me.
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Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.
James Dean
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lairdude
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Heidi - Are you saying you don't love me? In the time we have known each other on the forum I have gotten divorced from my wife and moved out of my home. Don't you know that it is all for you? And they you publicly break my heart like this?
LOL
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Heidi
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OOHh poor darling, Alas it seems I do have to publicly break your heart. I thought our involvement was simply for fun. You have ruined all the fun by getting a divorce. -sighs deeply-
OH you're a goof, do you know that -lol-
Trouble trouble trouble..
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James Dean
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justgottabreathe
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"One big thing to remember is not to publicly air your love affair & the details."
Best advice around. Keep it private. There are many people on these forums who know both of you, and may have opinions to offer if they know there's a hook up going on. Also, sometimes there are jealousy issues with other forum members as well. Best to keep it to yourselves.
It is hard when you want to shout it to the world....and you're happy, but I've seen a few relationships take a nosedive, and when it's done in a public domain....then it's just uncomfortable for everyone.
And above all, as Boo once said.....remember that most of us that are in a place like this are not in the best emotional health right now.
To grab on to someone that's still in the process of their own healing, and then expect them to help facilitate yours, as well as carry the weight of a new relationship...is like two drowning people who don't know how to swim taking turns dragging each other under the water, trying to survive. It seems like a good idea at first, but you realize as time goes by, that you need time to heal and be whole on your own before you're really ready to take the plunge. Learn how to swim first! lol
And always understand that there is a lot of baggage coming out of a situation like this. Respect each other's journey. Cut each other some slack when past issues resubmerge, and learn how to communicate in a way that doesn't tear each other down. Be understanding, but realistic. And open and honest. No matter what.
And be careful about throwing the "L" word around. It's wonderful to hear, but make sure that you mean it if you're saying it. There are a lot of wounded souls that have taken a serious hit because they thought these words carried more weight then they actually did. Meet in person if possible. Get a clear picture of who you both really are, and if you're really compatible in the real world.
The internet is a treasure trove of fantasy, but the intrusion of reality can be extremely painful.
Wait, wait, wait until you're sure you're ready. And then....get out there and show them what you've got! It can be an amazingly wonderful experience!
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Been there, done that, got the t-shirt:)
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