singlemomat37
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Does my ex have to allow my son to bring home toys from his apartment? My son was heartbroken because he couldn't have his Christmas presents. I finally found the toy he was crying over and bought it for him.
My ex bought a toddler bed for my son and has it in the corner of his bed room in his apartment. He has a roommate so he can't put the bed in the other room. There is a small pathway to walk between the toddler bed and my ex's bed. There is not enough room for my son to play with his toys in the bedroom or the living room. I want my son to have a bedroom of his own. Shouldn't he have a bedroom specifically for my son? My ex said that he has "provided adequate space" for my son. I think this is bogus. He just doesn't want to properly provide for my son. Adequate is not enough.
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liberated
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You didn't say how old your son is, but that might affect the toy issue. I assume he is very young (i.e. the toddler bed) Probably what would have been "best interest of the child" is to let him take it back to you while brand new with the understanding that he will bring it back and then eventually leave it at Dad's so he'll have things to play with there too. I know I want my children to have "their things" at his house as well as here. It needs to feel like "their home" not just a place they visit. Remember, we're talking best interest of the kids here...
As far as the room, if that's all he can do now, your son is not going to be deprived or neglected. IT may feel like a fun adventure to be camping out at Dad's...or it may offer him needed comfort to be in the same room with his father.
One thing I am having to learn is that when it is "his time", I don't have any control or input into what they are doing or where they are. My Ex is a jerk and was a horrible husband and an absent father, but he won't endanger his children. So, I have to let up on the rest. You may have to do the same. I'm not saying it's easy...but look at the flip side. Do you want him telling you how to do things in YOUR home? I certainly don't!!
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Kimberley
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Samsung
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Technically, kids own nothing. Whatever they have, belongs to the parents.
As for the bed, you have no control or say about it. Does your ex have a roomate so he can afford the rent by chance?
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chatter box
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The bed is dads no question. Toys, will that can go both ways. It would have ben better for the kid to bring one or two then take it back to dads to leave. As far is space more is always better but being with dad is more important as long as the basic needs are taken care of. Liveing conditions are always temporay and courts see it that everyone is striving to better there living conditions.
I understand your thinking though. My daughter got a big electric car for her birthday from my X the CP. Two weeks later I won custody and she was reduced to short visits of suppervised visitation after she got out of jail. It would have been great for her to have the car at my house but it never happened. My daughter never got to use it for a year then she was to big for it.
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singlemomat37
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He makes over $5500 a month, so he can afford the rent by himself and doesn't need a roommate. I don't know why he has a roommate. I know they are friends, but maybe they are more. I had never thought of that.
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singlemomat37
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My son is 3. He isn't in a toddler bed at home. The toddler bed is the only size of bed that will fit in the corner of my ex's bedroom.
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