jeffhurt
New
Reged: 01/26/08
Posts: 23
Loc: Michigan, Roseville
|
|
I'm 33, i've been married for just over 6 years now. My wife and I have been in counseling for about 1 year now. Since we've started therapy, it has worked wonders for me, it was even her idea to go. I've seen huge improvements in myself, i've learned how to love better, how to be more communicative, be more supportive, be a more everything, then 2 days ago she tells me it's not working, she feels nothing anymore. She's tried looking at our wedding album, other pictures, and still didn't feel anything. She tells me she loves me, but isn't in love anymore. I have done everything she has asked of me to no avail. I feel like she hit me in the stomach with a baseball bat. And i still feel it. 3 years ago she had gastric bypass and about a year and a half she started hanging around some people she met through the support group for that. She started to become secretive, her real good friends right now, i've never even met. She spends so much time away from our marriage with these friends of hers that mean so much to her, but yet she doesn't want me to meet them? How is that trying to make our marriage work? No wonder she feels the way she does, she's thrown me away since we started therapy. I've still tried and tried to work things out. But she moved out for the weekend, even took the cats. I'm still in love with her. How am i supposed to get over her? I don't see myself doing that for a long long time. I feel so lost and alone, I just want to crawl in a hole. It is so hard to even write this, I can hardly see the keyboard with the tears in my eyes. The only thing I can hope for is that talking about it eases the pain a little. But there's going to be pain for a long time. So much for a new start with the new year. Jeff
|
ATVILLAS
Platinum
 
Reged: 05/12/07
Posts: 2284
Loc: Lost in the post D maze!!
|
|
jeffhurt, you really should post your story on the main forum, life after divorce, you will find a lot of suppot there. I am sorry you are going through this, many of us are in the same boat as you. Best wishes
-------------------- Help someone smile today!!!
Welcome to paradise!!!
|
|