Divorce Support Forums: Ex wife driving me insane!!!

Hi Chrissy. I am new to this website but I too have the same exact problem that you do. I'm afraid that it doesnt improve unless the x wants it to. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and his x has hated me and my husband since the first day i met her. her behavior is bizarre, childish, hostile and emotionally unstable. she cheated on my husband when they were married and is now married to the man she cheated with. they have one child together now but she acts as if my husband is the one who cheated. they have three wonderful kids together. their ages at the time i met my husband were 7, 5, and 3. they are now 15, 13 and 10. we have had two restraining orders against her but if the x has an agenda to be difficult they will. i dont understand it either. I too have done nothing but treat the children as if they were my own and they have appreciated me for that. i get along with them all very well and have a very close relationship with all of them. the oldest will tell me that the mom is SO jealous of me and that she should be able to look up to her mom but she cant because she is so unstable. my husband and his x have 50/50 custody and let me tell you that was a mistake! when she cheated she left the kids for over a year and had nothing to with them and my husband easily could've had full custody of them but decided to let her have another chance at being a mom. he kicks himself every day for it. i dont know what to tell you except just keep doing what you are doing and try like heck to ignore her. it DOES NOT get easier. the less control they feel they have the more miserable they will try to make your life. the x in my case has now resorted to literally putting the children in the middle since after 8 yrs she couldn't control my husband anymore and couldnt stand it. she will not let the children speak to me when they are at her house and she will not allow them to speak to me or my husband if at say a softball game on her week. she takes him to court about every 3 months for the dumbest reasons. the oldest is on to her but the 13 yr old is in denial about what her mom really is. the 10 yr old is confused and it affects his school work with the constant conflict. but the x just lives for the drama. what i do with my husbands x is smile at her and talk to her if i get the chance because i refuse to act as if we are in 5th grade in front of the children. she tells the kids that I am the problem between her and craig and if i wasnt in the picture then they would get along just fine. i always just reassure the kids that i'm not going anywhere and i wish that their mom liked me. they also can see that i get along with my xhusbands wife just fine and so if my agenda was to be difficult and controlling in this situation, i would be with her too but i'm not. she also has an issue with me trying to be their mom. i have never done that and the kids know that. she is a crazy nut and needs to be on meds!!! sorry for rambling but i dont often get a chance to vent about her ridiculous behavior.