JAnderson
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Hi all, thanks for taking the time to read this.
My wife and I are at the end of it, or maybe it's the beginning. I now live in a seperate room in the same house. The tension is thick and my wife keeps threatening to take my son and leave to where I can never find her.
I have been the primary care taker of my son for about 3 years now while she was in the Army. Just recently got out of the service diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. My wife has been diagnosed with PTSD and Fibromyalgia has a whole score of mental problems. I believe her to be unstable and very possibly bi-polar.
There are many times when I fear her anger/temper. She isn't physically abusive but definitly verbally abusive.
It's been a long 7 years and I just want out..but don't want to lose my son. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
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hchater
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Take her threats seriously! get a digital recorder next time she makes that threat have it on tape. then get an emergency injunction from the court to protect your children!
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ILMom
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My ex was a drug addict and bipolar. I totally understand what you are saying about the verbal abuse. There is a feeling that they are entitled to everything and all their problems are your fault.
In my case, he tried to commit suicide during a drug overdose- would have killed the entire family with carbon monoxide poisoning if he's gone through with it. I got an order of protection after he went into the psyche ward. That was the best decision I ever made! You are going to need proof of her abuse. Some states don't allow audio or video recordings unless the other person agrees. Do you have any witnesses? Has she ever physically hurt you or your kids? You need to start documenting immediately (even if its just a diary) and calling the police so they can document for you.
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Jada
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[quote]Take her threats seriously! get a digital recorder next time she makes that threat have it on tape. then get an emergency injunction from the court to protect your children! [/quote]
Before you do the above, find out if it is legal. Some states, you need both parties consent. Or it isn't admissable, at all.
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theanswerguy
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Before you do the above, find out if it is legal. Some states, you need both parties consent. Or it isn't admissable, at all.
>>>>>>>>>>> That's only for taped phone conversations .
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theanswerguy
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File for divorce ( or just custody if it's allowed in your state ) and request a restraining order preventing either party from removing the child from the jurisdiction of the court .
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Jada
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[quote]Before you do the above, find out if it is legal. Some states, you need both parties consent. Or it isn't admissable, at all.
>>>>>>>>>>> That's only for taped phone conversations . [/quote]
Again, check and see if taping a conversation without the other person knowing it or giving consent is legal in your state. It doesn't matter if it is phone or in person, if it's illegal, it's not admissable.
An actual lawyer in your state should be able to answer the question of legality.
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jbar
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As far as I know live audio taping of a conversation, even if the recorder is hidden, is not illegal in any state provided that at least one of the parties knows about the recorder and there is nothing but air between the recorder and the those speaking. It may nonetheless not be admitted by a court.
http://www.rcfp.org/taping/states.html
Edited by jbar (04/12/08 04:23 PM)
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tookway2much
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I agree, tape her, get a lawyer and get coustody before she does do something stupid. She appears to unstabe to care for a child. She is proving she is capable of huting your son, by threatening to disappear with him, How will that affect his security if you are out of his life completely? Crazy B@#$&
only thinking of herself.
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tookway2much
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It can be used if you tell her you are taping her.
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