Many articles and resources start out saying "if the two parties cant agree" or "if neither spouse will compromise" etc, then the courts will decide...
What do you do if you aren't the one that wants the conflict and the other person does? What do you do if you are subjected to a divorce and legal proceeding that moves very slow, in which the attacking party isnt asking for anything or taking any action except delaying to the point of costing thousands of dollars and they flat REFUSE to talk about anything whatsoever.
I didnt want the divorce but I accept it is going to happen. I would agree to a "typical property division", joint custody, flexible time sharing with the kids, and reasonable support/maint but here's the punch line. Despite that, the other party (and the lawyer) wont accept any offers, wont say what they will accept, wont propose anything of their own, wont engage in any discussions etc. The stalling is hurting the kids while we all live in the same house and it's ruining us financially. There is no real offense to play when you are the "respondent" and you cant play defense if the other team wont take the field. Any suggestions/comments would be appreciated.
Mediation overall or mediation rel. to the kids? If kids, already ordered for evaluation so mediation too late? Also, if an affair and everything else is looked past (thanks to no fault), how poorly is it going to look not wanting to talk or settle? I am afraid the insanely reckless makes the moderately reckless or passive recklessness look acceptable.
Make no mistake about it. The other player has taken the field. They sit in their stone impenetrable fortress. Their offense is to simply wait and do very little. They sit back and laugh while you waste precious time and resources trying to breach their stone walls.
My advise? take a chill pill and relax. There strategy evolves around you throwing yourself against the rocks. Pull back! Regroup! Rally what resources you have left! hopefully you still have some left. Don't try to negotiate any more. Just wait for them to attack and you defend. But you have no chance if you continue to blow your resources and mental energy attacking their stone walls.
(edit) also if your lawyer is expensive stop talking to him, don't call him for little stuff. Definitely limit your visits with him. When your X trys to make a legal move, file to change lawyers. This will give you a chance to try and downgrade your legal expenses and waste your X time/money as well.
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