Divorce Support Forums: now it's hitting the fan...maybe it's started

first off, even though I myself have used the word judge, no way this is going to court to fight it out. Neither her nor I want to spend money on attys. Plus dont forget i'm counting on her overriding greed to save the house from going to foreclosure so she gets some lump from it. I may be wrong and in her self destructive nature she may just want us both out and to lose. I cant control that.

and for the Nth time, i'm made lists and given it to my atty and she sent it out to my wife's atty and my wife has the lists. The lists had all the stuff to give to her, give to me, split the 15K she stole and i'd continue to pay for the jeep and give her 10K for the house, split the pension and we leave each others IRA alone

what more specifically do you want me to do? you keep yelling about something i HAVE done yet you say i didnt do it. Thats the part i think you are missing

so taking this post as a stand alone post, tell me what more i can do , i really want to know.

and to be clear, because obviously i'm not explaining things well enough, i made a list that had all the stuff i wants, all the stuff i'm giving to her, all the values, splitting the 15K, the pension, the IRA are ours alone, and i keep paying off the other car.

So what more is there to do? what can i do?

you keep saying i want to do it MY way, can you tell me how other than the above you could do things?

and just to be sure you know, i DID make lists and give it ot my atty and to my wife. I cannot point a gun at their head to make them speak back to me can i?

I think you are missing the point that i did my homework, made my lists, gave it to my atty, and here we sit..doing nothing...

if you can thing very specifically of what i can do, other than making the list of all the assets and liabilities that i ALREADY have done, please let me know

and just so you knonw, for the record, i already made a list of stuff. I just wanted to make sure you knew that her atty and her have had the list and they never talked to me about it or tried to adjust my numbers

So please suggest in great detail what more i can do at this point. You keep yelling that i'm doing it my way and to make up lists...but i DID make up lists So what more can i do?

no one has given me a good suggestion what more i can do to force her to reply in writing or get her atty to reply. THATs the help i need. I have a very firm grasp of the finances and spreadsheets

i hope the one thing you've learned from this post is that i MADE A LIST and you will all stop bugging me to make a list..that part was done months ago! I need to know how to get her atty to respond to both her and me..

so any suggestions? i hope i made myself clear in this post since before i obviously didnt make myself clear of you all would stop busting on me for doing something I already did! i took you darn advice months ago and made the list so STOP talking about making a list and be productive and tell me how i can get her and her atty to even tell me ONE number they want other than her just wanting 50K for everything

that's the kind of help i need. Not scolding for doing something i alreayd did

i hope i got my message across but if not, please ask again and ill be happy to repeat it because i'm sure someone will misunderstand what i have and have not done so far :)

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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.