Hi, I am dealing with the same thing. I read your statement, and I thought, "wow" I am not alone. I am extremely hurt by the lies that flow back and forth between my husband and my in-laws. I am still learning to get through this and not let it bother me, but sometimes it is hard. I am here for support if you need it. Please know you are not alone.
the stbx in-laws are not harassing me in the least right now. They feel too guilty I'm assuming since they said they still loved me like a daughter then turned their back on me THEN found out some of the "truth" about their dear son. Or they are pissed off at me because I put in the papers that the gf was not allowed around my daughters during parenting time, he gets EOW. Two times a month he can be without her I think so as to spend time with his kids. They all make me sick and I wish I had never met them. They made my life hell before we even married. Not talking to them is a sweet relief to me.
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