stbs
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My stbx wife has now told me she doesn't want me to have overnight visitation or any visitation without her it sounds because "she can't stand to think of being away from our son". I am not asking for joint physical custody since he is only 16 months old but standard FOC guidelines at least seems fair. Anyone else with a similar situation?
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theanswerguy
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Advice : Tell her to go fock herself . Whatever visitation/custody you agree to you'll be stuck with . Do yourself a favor and insist on joint legal custody with as much visitation as you can get .
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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Samsung
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You will get standard visitation. If it is not honored, it is contempt of court. These are crucial years to be spending as much time as you can with the child. Is there a reason you don't want to share custody? If YOU want to, then that is what you should be pursueing. It is what is best for children, and it's not about you or her.
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stbs
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I just assumed given his age that having a primary home would be best for him, perhaps Im wrong - I obviously would love to be with him as much as possible.
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memyselfandI
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Not all women have an spiteful motive. There might be legimate concerns as to why she doesn't want overnight visitation.
Maybe there may be a reason that is a legimate concern for the childs safety that she doesn't want overnight visitation. Not all women are mean and vendictive - some have concerns for the childs safety. Such as a father that is an alcoholic and puts the child in harms why by putting that child in a car after he has been drinking. Or maybe that father on numerous occasions has passed and left something on the stove cooking and the mother doesn't want the house to burn down one day with her child in it because the father passes out. Before you jump to conclusion's and say fight her, fight her stop and think maybe there is a reason and maybe that reason is for the safety of the child.
I am not saying that this is the situtation in this case but I just wanted to inform people that there are 2 sides to every story. People sure jump on board to give an opinion without knowing the facts.
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stbs
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no this is not the situation, she simply doesn't want to be apart from him - states "being apart from him is like haveing her arm removed"??
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Samsung
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The orginal poster told why she doesn't want him to have overnights with the child: "she can't stand to think of being away from our son".
There's nothing written about abuse or neglect, and, if the OP is telling the truth, then the best interests of the child are being neglected by the mother.
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memyselfandI
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stbs - I am sorry to have offended you that was not my intention - And if it is any consoltation as soon as she adjusts to all this she will ease up on the visitation. Alot has to do with the emotions and the age of the child.
When I posted I was meaning to post to: Advice : Tell her to go fock herself - that response just irritated me and there could be more to the situation then this person knows about to say that response
Edited by memyselfandI (03/12/08 03:24 PM)
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