mommybex
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Reged: 02/04/08
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I've been divorced from an alcoholic/violent man for about 7 yrs. I have sole custody, though he has visitation rights, provided he does not drink during these visits. He consistantly breaks the rule, and is often intoxicated when visitation is over. He does not pay consistant child support, though he has ample income. I've tried to be nice, and not "make waves" for the sake of my son, however I do not approve of many of the impressions ex is introducing to my son...(ie, racism, intoxication, ect.). I'm very scared to go back through court proceedings, and do not want my son to have to experiance it (12yrs old), however, I know I need to proceed. I'm not familiar with the area, I live in Porter Co. Indiana, and I need a good family lawyer, as well as some encouragement that I NEED to do this. Please help. Thank you
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judylee
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Reged: 10/19/07
Posts: 299
Loc: Indiana
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You should pursue the drinking while with son business since this puts your child in a potentially dangerous situation. You could be held responsible for allowing him to be in a knowingly harmful situation should anything happen. As for the child support, if you don't want to pay a lawyer, try contacting your local county prosecuter to see if they can enforce it. From what I've seen, Indiana doesn't mess around with deadbeat parents. I'm not in Porter county but when I needed to find a decent divorce lawyer, I asked friends for recommendations.
Good luck and let us know how things are going.
Judy
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mommybex
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Reged: 02/04/08
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Sadly, the one time I requested law enforcement intervention, the head police officer said, "well he's not that drunk. Why can't your son stay? His girlfriend is here, and she isn't drinking" UNREAL. (My son didn't want to leave yet) He said that while holding the paperwork from the judge stating that if there were ANY alcohol consumpution during visitation, I had the right to terminate the visit immediately. The saddest part of the whole situation, is that my son doesn't see or more importantly, want to see why his dad shouldn't be drinking. He thinks his dad is "funny" when he's drunk. I really worry about my son making the right desicions when it comes to alcohol. My son is aware of the DUI my ex recieved, and from hearing my ex downplay it ("it was only a couple blocks"), my son doesn't think it's a big deal either. I don't know many people out here, we only moved out here within the last few years. Money isn't the issue, it's the long, drawn out court proceedings that I worry about. That, and the fact my son and present hubby DO NOT get along. I hear Indiana lets the child decide where they want to reside. If my ex didn't drink, and my son wanted to go there, I'd be o.k. with that, but with the drinking, it scares me quite a bit. The ex has never spent more that 48 hours straight with my son, and he has NO patience. On longer visitations, my son has expressed my ex loosing his temper with him. I can only imagine how bad it would be after a week straight. In the end the most important thing is the safety and well being of my son. Sorry this was so long. Thank you.
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infinity386
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Reged: 02/24/08
Posts: 124
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Whats wrong with drinking?
You should try and put your x and son together for a month.
If they survive then they should be fine till hes 20. If they dont, then you wont have any problems with your son wanting to stay with you. :)
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