I got my wife to make an appointment with a concilor that specializes in dependency cases. Hopefully I can get her to go a week without booze. I'm going to be babysitting, an or policing her every day until we meet with the concilor. We had a very serious talk today. I know that she has promised in the past, only to break them. But I just want her to get better! I don't have much patience left with her but I realized today that I stll love her very much. I suppose I can give her another chance. I also know that the odds of her letting me down again are great and it's very probable that she does. There may be that slim chance that I got through to her. It was a different type of converstaion than we've ever had before. There was no yelling or saying things that leave the permanent emotional scars like in the past. I also bought a lottery ticket for the $275,000,000.00 AZ Powerball today. The odds of my wife's success may be greater than winning the lottery, but ya can't win if you don't play! I just laughed. Man this stuff just kills you. When you have no control, you're helpless, disgusted, pissed, depressed, and doubtful. All those feeling, all at one time. It's difficult for anybody to handle. If the concilor doesn't work, I imagine my marriage is doomed and I will get out, but one more shot won't kill me right now. Thanks to everybody here. I hope you all work your problems out. Continue to post here. You may help somebody that really, really needs it. Maybe me in the near future. Got my fingers crossed.
I just divorced my ex who is a bipolar alcoholic/drug addict. Al-Anon made me realize that I was not crazy. I also learned all about the con-games addicts play. Therapy helped me realize I was hopelessly waiting for change, for the 100th time. He was in rehab twice, drug overdosed twice and eventually tried to kill himself and take us with him (carbon monoxide- our deaths would have been an accident). There came a point where I had to say enough is enough and if he wasn't going to get sober after all the professional support we threw at him, then he could just go-to-hell. The moment he was out of the house, we started to heal.
Don't throw away years of your life waiting for your spouse to change. However do try to get her help- perhaps involve her family, schedule an intervention, etc. If your efforts don't get any results, run like the wind and get to a lawyer.
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