chatter box
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It's spring break and the games have started. My X has starting using the motorcycle thing as a game. My daughter is seven and has no buisness on one. Actually maybe if she's been good at school I'll take her around the block. Helmet of corse and no faster than 15 mph and never during busy times and only on my street. She loves it and it is good for her. I'm not the first to give her a ride though. MY X's dad takes her on the highway and around town. That upsets me and the X knows it but I will not let it get to me. X sent me pictures of them on the highway, so I didn't say anything. Kids are gone for spring break so we decided to take the weekend and go camping on the scooters. My daughter calls me and wants to tag along the first day. I could here them laughing in the back ground. I do not want her on the road much less a 200 mile trip. Now I'm back at work and my daughter has had her phone off for three days. Thats ok I told her to call if she wanted. Now she is calling gigles and hangs up and turns the phone off. I'm sure my X and family are putting her up to this but thats just crazy. Five more days to go.
I know what some are thinking about me taking her on the motorcycle but I live in a quiet area with very little traffic. My daughter needs something she really enjoys in her life right now. They on the other hand live on a highway.
Part of the reason I got custody was because they were not putting her in a car seat as a baby. This is there way of saying now what.
Such babies.
Just venting again
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Jada
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You can't complain about them taking her for a motercycle ride when you yourself do it.
BTW, there was a poster on another board whose ex bought a motercycle for his main transportation. And that was what he was going to drive the kid around in.
The judge said no, it's not. The kid has to be driven in a vehicle with a back seat and a seatbelt.
If you do ask for this, keep in mind that it will also apply to you.
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ttina
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Are you more upset that she is on a motorcyle trip or that she is enjoying herself? My son's dad has a harley. One day when I can afford it I will have one of my own. My son has ridden all his life. This is some thing he shares with his dad. I can't indulge him by taking him on trips and such b/c I don't have one. I do feel jealous that I can't do this for him, but I am happy my son gets the chance.
The calling and hanging up is childish behavior. Guess what?!?! Your daughter is a child. I would have a talk with her about phone etticute (sp) and question whether she is mature enough for he own phone.
As for the rest of this week, relax. Allow your daughter to have fun without you. It is a part of her growing up and a part of her being with the other parent.
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chatter box
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I'm glad she likes the rides no matter who it is with. Yes I take her on rides but not any faster than she can ride her bike and not anyware she doesn't ride her bike. I took a riding corse and ride most every day and understand my limits. The other person has never taken a riding class, does not have much experiance, does not obide by the helmet laws and does not have a motorcycle licence. It's kinda like letting your kid take a plane ride sounds fun and it is but if the pilot didn't have a licence, take a class or flown before you would probly think twice. As for a judge telling me I can't forget it. I have enough sence to understand my limits. I'll take her canoeing if I want and have but I dought I try class 3 rapids with her. Same with going on the ATV. It was a guided trip in the desert even my mom went and drove by herself. If a 65 year old grandma can do it I think my daughter could ride with someone.
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ttina
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You don't ride her any faster than she can ride a bicycle? Given the dynamics of how a motorcycle works, you're more likely to drop the bike this way than if you have significant forward momentum. You did not state in your OP that he did not have a license, that changes in that it is showing his irresponsibility. But unless you want to feed into his ego by making a drama about this, I'd let it go. I would require her to wear a helmet, no matter the law in that particular state. If your ex is oksy with his odds on a skull v/s pavement match... fine, but your daughter can make that choice for herself when she's 18.
Maybe I missed something? The judge ordered you to take her canoeing?
Kids have different skills. I have a co-worker whose 10 yo does competative dirtbike racing, my 9yo ss cannot ride a twowheeler, my 14yo son can drive a vehicle, he had a go cart since he was 6. The thing is, kids can do activities at differnt skill levels. What may be dangerous (my ss on a dirtbike) to one child is fine with another child (My co-worker's son racing).
As much as you see your ex as... you're ex, he is also your daughter's father. He may not do things as you do, but he has your daughter's safety in mind... even more than the "games" you say he is playing with you.
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