[quote]If your done - your done. No amount of explaining will ever be enough so don't. IMHO the less you say the better. She will never be satisfied with the explanation anyway. So don't try to explain - it just digs a deeper hole to try to dig/explain your way out of. [/quote]
i did have a lot of pauses and stares into space. My mind said less is better and i stayed quiet a lot and now was not the time to make her angry and give her ammo to jack up alimony requests. I figure the worse she can say is 'he sat there and stared like an idiot' but unless she lies, she cant say too much bad about me. I do think part of it is she doesnt know what to tell family and friend but mostly it's her own justification in her mind.
i so bad want to tell her i'm seeing atty thurs but never promised her i d tell her that, only promised she wouldnt be surprised and i'll warn her when to expect the papers (she got surprised her last marriage and i want to appear better than him). Plus i need to raid the visa for the atty pymt and i dont need her freezing that or complicating things.
and i feel like poo because last night she was on the phone with the sis she will be moving in with and the weenie boyfriend was in the background constantly getting in on the conversation. She hung up and said 'i dont know how ill ever make it living there with him there.'
i didnt respond at all. Not my issue. But it was hard not to
-------------------- call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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