kirsimkin
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Reged: 03/24/08
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I got married about half a year ago. My wife is from another country and I brought her to the States on the K-1 visa. For the last 6 months I completely supported her financially. And we have a pretty comfortable lifestyle I might add. Recently she recieved emplyment auhtorization and started working. The other day I brought up a conversation about sharing household expenses now that she is working. What I heard in response shocked me--basically she refused to share housing expenses (saying mortgage is on me since its my house) and only agreed to pay half of food & utilities, which works out to about 20% of total expenses per month. She also agreed to pay for her car when she gets it. Now I am thinking that she married me for money and I am seriously thinking about potential divorce. Has anyone been in similar situtation? What would you do in this case?
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Sarah1014
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Reged: 04/12/07
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Was there previous talk about separate checking accounts?
Why not just put all the money in one account?
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
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Did you own the house before you were married? If so, she has a point. The house is yours.
And it seems to me that she is planning on helping with the household expenses.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
Posts: 3153
Loc: Colorado
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You two clearly have different come-froms on financial issues. You appear to be operating from mismatched assumptions.
First piece of advice for you is expect no payback for the 6 months you supported her. That was your decision, live by it.
You need to come together on this. You need to come together at a higher level than the details of what percentage of mortgage each of you pays.
I think you are overreacting to be considering divorce over this. Money is a difficult issue for many couples. You need to give it some conscious attention.
If you want to get dark and technical and look at it from the perspective of, "What would happen if we divorced?" She would be entitled to a piece of the house in divorce. Because of this and because she's benefiting from living in it, she should be contributing to the mortgage.
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Samsung
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Reged: 06/14/07
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Did you own the house before you were married? If so, she has a point. The house is yours."
I'd have to disagree. Unless she agrees to waive all appreciation and mortgage paydown that occurs in the future, then, if she has the means to contribute,she should.
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Jada
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[quote]Did you own the house before you were married? If so, she has a point. The house is yours."
I'd have to disagree. Unless she agrees to waive all appreciation and mortgage paydown that occurs in the future, then, if she has the means to contribute,she should. [/quote]
Paying the share of the household bills IS contributing. His post clearly stated that she was going to contribute to the household bills.
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