pogo22
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After witnessing the devastation caused when my older sons were restricted from me 24 years ago, it is clear that I need to have primary residential custody to be sure that my one year old son has flexible and equal access to both parents. He is still nursing though he sleeps well through the night without his mother. I am the parent more likely to promote equal access because she prevented him from seeing me for two months without any allegations of abuse. I am looking for any resources available that might help with this cause, including free or low cost advocates.
I just reluctantly signed a mediation agreement allowing my son only 3 two hour visits per week, based on local guidelines that recommend it.
Are there resources that challenge these antiquated guidelines?
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Jada
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[quote]After witnessing the devastation caused when my older sons were restricted from me 24 years ago, it is clear that I need to have primary residential custody to be sure that my one year old son has flexible and equal access to both parents. He is still nursing though he sleeps well through the night without his mother. I am the parent more likely to promote equal access because she prevented him from seeing me for two months without any allegations of abuse. I am looking for any resources available that might help with this cause, including free or low cost advocates.
I just reluctantly signed a mediation agreement allowing my son only 3 two hour visits per week, based on local guidelines that recommend it.
Are there resources that challenge these antiquated guidelines? [/quote]
Nothing you have posted would indicate that she is unfit. She's the primary, he's still nursing (which is good for him, btw). She has custody now and you have visitation based on the guidelines for babies.
I seriously doubt that you will get primary placement. The courts certainly aren't going to go by what happened with your older sons. Different mother.
Clearly, you don't have a problem with her having custody or caring for the baby, you signed a temporary agreement letting her have temp custody.
She may have prevented you from seeing him because she was afraid that you would take off with him. Or because she was angry. But if she follows the temp order, your argument isn't going to hold water.
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chatter box
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[quote][quote]After witnessing the devastation caused when my older sons were restricted from me 24 years ago, it is clear that I need to have primary residential custody to be sure that my one year old son has flexible and equal access to both parents. He is still nursing though he sleeps well through the night without his mother. I am the parent more likely to promote equal access because she prevented him from seeing me for two months without any allegations of abuse. I am looking for any resources available that might help with this cause, including free or low cost advocates.
I just reluctantly signed a mediation agreement allowing my son only 3 two hour visits per week, based on local guidelines that recommend it.
Are there resources that challenge these antiquated guidelines? [/quote]
Nothing you have posted would indicate that she is unfit. She's the primary, he's still nursing (which is good for him, btw). She has custody now and you have visitation based on the guidelines for babies.
I seriously doubt that you will get primary placement. The courts certainly aren't going to go by what happened with your older sons. Different mother.
Clearly, you don't have a problem with her having custody or caring for the baby, you signed a temporary agreement letting her have temp custody.
She may have prevented you from seeing him because she was afraid that you would take off with him. Or because she was angry. But if she follows the temp order, your argument isn't going to hold water. [/quote]
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you have to have a better reason. I'm a little confused she had custody at one time and now you have custody? How did that happen.
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Jada
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[quote][quote][quote]After witnessing the devastation caused when my older sons were restricted from me 24 years ago, it is clear that I need to have primary residential custody to be sure that my one year old son has flexible and equal access to both parents. He is still nursing though he sleeps well through the night without his mother. I am the parent more likely to promote equal access because she prevented him from seeing me for two months without any allegations of abuse. I am looking for any resources available that might help with this cause, including free or low cost advocates.
I just reluctantly signed a mediation agreement allowing my son only 3 two hour visits per week, based on local guidelines that recommend it.
Are there resources that challenge these antiquated guidelines? [/quote]
Nothing you have posted would indicate that she is unfit. She's the primary, he's still nursing (which is good for him, btw). She has custody now and you have visitation based on the guidelines for babies.
I seriously doubt that you will get primary placement. The courts certainly aren't going to go by what happened with your older sons. Different mother.
Clearly, you don't have a problem with her having custody or caring for the baby, you signed a temporary agreement letting her have temp custody.
She may have prevented you from seeing him because she was afraid that you would take off with him. Or because she was angry. But if she follows the temp order, your argument isn't going to hold water. [/quote]
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you have to have a better reason. I'm a little confused she had custody at one time and now you have custody? How did that happen. [/quote]
He doesn't have custody, she does. He isn't happy about the visitation time. If he had custody, he would be able to let the mother see the child more often and he wouldn't be here asking this question.
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WolRon
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"I just reluctantly signed a mediation agreement allowing my son only 3 two hour visits per week, based on local guidelines that recommend it. "
Why in the hell did you do that? That's just plain stupid. There's no reason you couldn't take him for the whole weekend plus other visits. Nursing schmersing. Babies live off of formula all the time. Being forced to give up the baby to the mother just because it's nursing is an act of women abusing their position as a parent.
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ttina
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I agree with ron (gasp).... to an extent. Nursing mothers can pump and fill bottles that can be "good" for days (refergerated) to months (frozen). And the child is 1 yo? S/He should be on solids primarily by now. I suggest you stop listening toher logic and become educated on babies and thier care. Until you do, you are not going to be prepared to take care of this child. If you do not know the basics of child care, you do not have a chance to get equal visitation.
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pogo22
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After raising three other sons, I am confident in my abilities as a parent. That is not an issue here. What I need are some resources or expert witnesses; whatever it takes to convince a young female judge that this 6 month old child is better off having a father as the primary custodian. The law is overwhelmingly on my side because I have never restricted any child from seeing their mother, but there are these "guidelines" which are totally breast biased. Where can I get court worthy info or witnesses to break this ridiculous bias?
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Nish
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Pogo,
Okay call me confused. In your initial post you said your son was 1 year old. In this final post you mentioned you wanted the custoy of the 6 month of baby....Well if you can't keep the age of your baby straight, how do you figure you are the better parent to have primary custody?
The needs of a 1 year old differ greatly from a 6 month old. Nothing you have said so far, has convinced me that you are the better parent. If your baby is 1 year old, you may at least stand a better chance of getting more parenting time with him. If he is truly 6 months old, I am not so sure.
Good Luck,
Nish
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pogo22
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Thank you for pointing that out. He is sixteen (16) months old. Perhaps I need a proof reader. And I agree that is a big difference. What resources do you recommend?
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pogo22
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I signed the mediation agreement with a statement that I was only agreeing because he would not otherwise see me at all until the hearing, which is not soon. I am more interested in continuing my relationship with him because he had been cut off from me for seven weeks and there is no reason to prolong that.
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