I can understand the difficult position this puts you and your BF into. But, it can be remedied, and it appears that you have found the solution. I have a close male friend who had a baby 17 years ago with a woman who was still married to her ex. The baby was stillborn, so on top of the grieving process, they had to deal with the legal red tape to get the baby's last name legally changed to that of her father.
unfortunately i find myself in a similar situation. my husband left me for another woman 10 months ago i filed for divorce about 8 months ago everything is still pending because he is not will to work out a deal regarding the division of our marital property. and now according to my lawyer i will have to wait for the full two years of separation before the court with even hear my case in order to have it all settled. I was ok with waiting that was until i found out last week that i am pregnant with my new bf's child and now i don't know what to do. i want to have this baby i would love to move on with my life and put this mess behind me. if anyone knows how i could speed this up so that i will be divorced by the time my baby is born that would be great. I in no way want to lose out on the 50 some odd thousand dollars that i should be receiving from my divorce but i also do not want my ex to be in anyway associated with this child. so if anyone has any clue what i can do here please let me know thank you
I don't know that you can speed up the divorce process. That all has to do with the individual circumstances of your case. In my state, when there is a pregnancy involved, it's almost as if it puts an automatic halt to the proceedings. The ONLY thing that might keep things on track would have been for the STBX to sign the denial of paternity form - PRIOR to the birth.
My recommendation is that you research your state's laws THOROUGHLY. There's family law, and the rules for the bureau of Vital Statistics in your state. Get a copy of the birth certificate application which is required before you check out of the hospital. It should yield the information you might need to get through the red tape.
And REMEMBER, it's a piece of paper - NOT a life threatening situation. I'd say the frustrations we've encountered have been more about pride and honor than about anything else.... ;)
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