Ang22007
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Reged: 06/05/07
Posts: 285
Loc: NM
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Ok so I probably give not so great advice, but here is what is happening now.
My email at work was too big so I had to delete some stuff. I never delete my "sent" stuff. I found several to some friends that referenced my hubby being really grumpy, distant, etc. His Bday is coming up and on that date, I said "I took him to dinner and ice cream, that was all mean girl could come up with considering how he is acting". He was having an emotional affair, I had no clue, would have never guessed. 3000 texts in a month, he was on the phone with her as soon as we got home from bday dinner. At that time, I would go upstairs to watch tv, he would go down to watch tv (I thought).
So in May I was wondering why the phone bill was so large and he actually caught me looking at it. Busted!
He told me all about "perfect" and how he loved her the most and they had passion and he loved me but was not in love with me and maybe we are better friends?
Well, I had thrown around the D word previously, and really thought the marriage was dead anyways, but I was so HURT! It was horrible and a great turning point/insight for me. I am not proud of any of that, but realization is realization!
In June he asked me to come back and I jumped into it with all my heart.
Gonna go buy him the present that he wants so much. Tomorrow is another day, I am gonna try to forget all about last year......
I wish you all the best.
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Armor
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Reged: 10/27/06
Posts: 438
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I'm glad to hear your marriage is back on a good path, I hope it continues to improve for you! Best wishes...
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CMSA
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Reged: 04/01/08
Posts: 13
Loc: Tucson, Az
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Good to hear of someone not being so quick to throw in the towel completely (maybe you should buy yourself a present too!) Best of luck to you!!
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"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with."
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
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mfergel
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Reged: 02/11/08
Posts: 1351
Loc: Richmond, VA
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Keeps us up to date. As someone going through something similar, I'd really like to see some success stories around here.
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Here I am ladies.......come and get me. :-)
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happy2beme
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Reged: 03/26/08
Posts: 20
Loc: Tennessee
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Way to go!!! Get the book the Five Love Languages. I am trying to fix my marriage now. Never give up. If you truely love someone, you can never let go. Trust me on this book. It breaks down the language of love. I have started trying some of it. It really works. I don't know if you have kids, but it works on them too. Has my husband moved back home? No. But He hasn't said anything else about a divorce.
Good luck.
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Love yourself first. Then you can love others.
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EmergeAnew
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Reged: 02/26/08
Posts: 229
Loc: IL
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Ang,
Im so excited for you and your husband and I hope that the road to real recovery is continuing to go well.
What are you and your husband doing to recover from what happened? Are you seeing a marriage councleor, what seems to be working for you guys?
Best wishes to you both.
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You must be the change you wish to see - Mahatma Gandhi
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wvhokie
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Reged: 04/09/08
Posts: 12
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That is great news. Please do keep us posted. Sometimes it does take something extreme to make us realize how important the things we already have really are.
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Ang22007
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Reged: 06/05/07
Posts: 285
Loc: NM
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Wow, I don't know who to reply to, but thank you all for your good thoughts, thanks for the recommendation of the book and yes, we don't realize how great it is til it's gone. That was easy lol!
This site is great, I try to post my positive story in the midst of all the pain once in awhile, I actually think this site had a part in it. Some of the ladies and gents helped me find my strength. Saved me.
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