Divorce Support Forums: Lied on medical records

You may want to ask the doctor if you could clarify so that your daughter's history is not mistaken and no mis-diagnoses arising from the inaccurate history would ever jeopardize your daughter's treatment.

Then write a paragraph in explanation that this was a divorce situation, that mother obviously had motive to lie and did make several lies, that eventually, based upon issues involving your daughter's health that she lost custody entirely and it was turned over to you. Then explain that your sisters are still alive, that your family has no history of alcoholism, that any bruises on her in photographs provided by your ex were not from abuse by you and you have no knowledge of their etiology and are aware that she has also claimed that your daughter bruises easily, so if bruising becomes an issue in the future that they might review whether or not she has a blood problem that would result in easy bruising or whether she has, indeed, been injured as a result of abuse.

Ask to be allowed to put in a more accurate initial form for thier records so that if the information gets input into a computer anywhere for her history, that it is properly input. Be careful not to exaggerate your ex's own family history or her issues, (and not to minimize, in the situations where she has refused to follow doctors' orders, etc), because if things ever become life-threatening with your daughter's condition, the docs will want to explore whether it's an issue of her mother refusing to medicate or follow their orders, whether there really is a bruising-blood problem (versus putting it off as abuse and starting a criminal case while ignoring the potential health related cause)...

With your daughter, particularly, I would not ignore lies in her medical history. Clearly, your ex hates you and wanted to find a way to blame you for whatever se was taking your daugter ot see the doc for, but stuff like that can end up causing significant delays in finding appropriate treatments, and you don't want those lies to muck up your daughter's future treatment.

BUT be aware, doctors know that people don't always tell the whole truth on these things, that alcoholics minimize problems and estranged spouses maximize them. THey SHOULD think to account for this (but don't always, not everyone goes into medicine because they want to deal with the interpersonal problems between families)... but

Well, I've heard of situations where inaccurate medical history resulted in significant mis-diagnoses, resulting in tragic treatment issues, and the doctors were able to show they were not responsible for mal-practice when they could show that the medical history was inaccurate in a way that woul dhave reasonably made them think thier diagnosis & treatment were accurate.