jaye
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My ex's girlfriend spanked my 9 year old daughter for "smarting off" to her. I just don't think this is appropriate. What should I do so that it doesn't come back on her? Father tends to overreact if the children tell me anything and tells them to quit telling lies. Girlfriend talked to her about it last night and told her she knew it wasn't a spanking that she just popped her leg to get her attention and to quit telling me her business. Does the court even care?
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Starion
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No - unless it crosses the line into child abuse with physical proof.
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taryn
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that is BUIISHIT!
no one better smack my kids.
next time you see the gf,
give her a nice little 'smack'
you know, to get her attention.
while your at it smack your kid's dad...hard!
to get HIS attention.
where was he during this little episode?
and no,
the courts probably arent going to care and it wasnt
abusive,
but its rediculous!
ps. i dont REALLY advocate smaking another adult of course...im just saying!
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Edited by taryn (04/14/08 04:39 PM)
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jaye
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That is exactly how I feel but I know how their father treats them if I confront him with anything like this. The girlfriend told my daughter to quit telling on her or she wouldn't take her shopping or to lunch anymore. I have had about all I can stand. I have remarried and am so happy in my new life. I just wish that the kids didn't have to continue to suffer.
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happytobdivorced
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I would rip that [censored] a new one!!! No one better ever smack my kid. I don't even spank him. I just can't do it. I don't believe in hitting people.
I would risk what ever I had to. Go over there and confront her, call her on the phone-whatever. My boyfriend told me once that it only takes $400 to get out of jail for something like that-we discussed this because he told me he was going to kick my ex's ass for tormenting my son in our driveway one time.
This is one of my worst fears. That my ex gets mixed up with someone who treats my son poorly.
Oh and by the way-I live in the land of 'rednecks'-so this would be standard behavior-kicking someones ass!
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jakandme
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Happy, I too live in redneck country. Luckily we haven't had all this drama yet. I say yet because one of my best friends saw him and the OW yesterday and embarrassed them to death. I didn't know she would do that but, you never know how these things will play out in this neck of the woods. I'm sorry but I do think that I would go off in the head. If the girls are being bad enough for dad to spank them at his house then so be it, but she better not lay a hand on them or I will whoop her skinny ass. Spankings (if you agree with that sort of thing) is ok if it is not abuse and it is between the PARENTS only. That is my opinion though and I have stuck with that with my first divorce and my son from it.
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jaye
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That might be the only way to handle this. My husband had to set my ex straight about the way he was treating me. He called him and told him the way it was going to be and that if he hadn't made himself clear then he would make it clearer. Maybe a phone call will set her straight too. I am a very nonconfrontational person but I believe I could turn.
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happytobdivorced
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My son has been spanked by his father mostly. I have done it-but my son has not put me in the position to spank very many times. He is now almost 12-I can't imagine spanking him now-that would be wierd.
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jaye
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My 9 year old daughter has not given me reason to spank her. The girlfriend "popped" her (her term) because she said she didn't like the dress she picked out for her to wear at Easter. Not a reason to pop a kid.
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taryn
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[quote]That is exactly how I feel but I know how their father treats them if I confront him with anything like this. The girlfriend told my daughter to quit telling on her or she wouldn't take her shopping or to lunch anymore. [/quote]
tell the girlfriend that your daughter is not going to "tell" on her anymore is she stops doing "tattletale' behaviors!
AND what is this gf? Like 18? to be threating some CHILD "if you tell your mommy, i wont be your friend".
What an idiot woman-child this is.
maybe...next time she smacks your kid....have your kid smack her back or SAY something like "yeah, do NOT hit me woman" and walk away.
im going to talk to my kids aobut this senario tonight
(not yours...)
just in CASE this happens to them,
i can SO see psycho gf doing something this stupid
and playing the "dont tell your mommy or..." stuff.
nahhhh.
this isnt cool.
kick some gf a$$..
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