I'm a 32 yr old mother. My husband and I have been married almost 7 years (together 9 1/2 yrs), we have 1 child (2 yr old) together. He was married previously & has 1 child from that marriage. I'm not even sure were to begin. My husband is a very moody person and loves to point out my wrongs or even worse loves to play mind games with me. Anytime I try talking to him about something regarding our marriage that is bothering me he loves to jump in with "oh yeah that's right you are perfect", he'll say that knowing it ticks me off because I'm the first person to think or feel that I'm not perfect. He refuses to talk to me about anything that is bothering him or even me. I feel so alone, I feel like my marriage is in shambles and I have no one to talk to. My family has no idea that there are any problems. I come from a Catholic family where divorce is not heard of. I guess I'm afraid of embarrassing them or disappointing them. My daugther is the only thing that is keeping me going. In the past 2 weeks my husband has slept in bed with me only 1 time, he stays up half the night playing playstation or watching tv and then sleeps on the couch. I don't even understand why & he won't talk to me. I know I'm rambling and I'm sorry. I'm just scared, lonely and afraid. I want my marriage to work but feel I'm the only one who cares. How do you fix something that takes 2 people & the other person doesn't seem to care? I think sometimes my husband is only sticking around because he knows he can't live financially on his own. I make more than what he does (about twice as much); I have always asked him for his thoughts before I have accepted any promotion that affects us (I currently have to travel occassionaly but am not gone more than 1 night at a time and that doesn't even occur monthly, usually just day trips) and even though he says he backs me on my decision it always feels like he resents me for being successful in my career. I'm tired of crying, I'm tired of feeling completely alone.
Well, you state your strong religious beliefs. Have you talked to a pastor or someone from the church? Also, I'd recommend a book call Divorce Busters. I've been reading it and so far it's offered some help in being able to recognize how the things we do can impact the relationship as well. Regardless, the way he is treating you isn't right. I'm sure others can offer you some good advice as well.
-------------------- Here I am ladies.......come and get me. :-)
Counseling. If he won't go then you go for yourself. You might have to face the fact that your marriage might end and if so, then you'll be beter prepared if you ahve some guidance.
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