Cochise
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Hello all,
My wife and I are divorced and we have a son. She has custody and I pay child support. Its been like this for a few years. We have a very good relationship and I see my son as often as I want. He stays with me when not in school and on many weekends. My ex wife is doing very well and doesn't even need the money she gets from child support. I however have gone through a long layoff. I got a nice severence package and I opted to have them continue take out the 20% for child support still. During my layoff, my ex has given me back most of the money as she knows I'm going through a tough time. Even 20% was taken out of my unemployment checks. However that ended and I just been getting some contract work here and there. Some pays good and some pays not so good. I get by. I have offered to pay my ex some money for CS - but she says just to keep it as she is doing just fine. Thats good for me, because I can afford to pay my utility bills, rent, car, etc. However, the attorney general has sent notices that im late on child support payments (since nothing is getting automatically taken out). Its been adding up over the last few months. Now my checking account has a lean on it and they took all my money out.
Now I know I'll get it all or most of it back from my ex and I'll just have to deal with this inconvenience.
So here's my questions.
1. Is there a way to just get rid of having to pay child support payments? I heard that its not easy or there is no way. My ex is cool with it, since we have been making sure each other is doing ok and that my son is happy.
2. Should we just continue with what we got, or is there a way to report that she has been getting paid (by cash from me - even though she really isnt) so that they don't put a lean on my checking account?
I'm just looking for options that don't require me to have spend a lot of money or cause inconveniences like 'leans on accounts.' My ex said she would say she is caught up or has been getting money from me, but we're not sure who to talk to and to not cost us money.
Thanks for any comments or answers.
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chatter box
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Reged: 11/09/07
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First thing you need to do is try and get you support lowered. Call the AG office and see if they can help with that. I would also ask your X if she would be willing to set down with you at the AG office and go over what you have paid. Until then everything you do pay needs to go through the AG office. If she wants to give the money back to you thats her biz not the AG but the AG office has to track that you made the payment. This is something that needs to be addressed before it gets out of hand. I'm suprised the AG office leaned your account for a few months. I can't even get then to do the employe with holding already in the court orders.
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Cochise
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Reged: 04/17/08
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Thank you for the reply.
Yeah that sounds good. I just called the AG and they were pretty rude with me today when I asked about how I should go about lowering my child support payments. They basically said 'get a lawyer'. Sounds like more money to me. I'll get with my ex and maybe we can go there together and work it out. I'm sure it's easier to handle these situations with both of the parents are there on the same side (the kid's). Putting a lean on my account only complicates the issue. But I now see that all payments must go through the AG.
Thanks again and if there is any other advice, I'd apprecaite it.
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chatter box
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You will probly still have to go to court but at least the AG office will know what cash payments you made. That will help you in court. Also having your X on your side in court is the best. If she's not contesting the reduction then I would just seek out a legal aid or someone to help both of you do it yourself and not waist the money on a lawer. good luck.
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MsP75243
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Reged: 05/12/08
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You can schedule an appointment with the specific Attorney General's office that is handling your case and ask for a review of your case (get the location and number by calling the 800#). Your ex will need to accompany you and if you both agree to the new terms the AG's office will modify the order. It's better all the way around for the parties to be in agreement; the AG's office is there to make sure the child's interests are protected according to the law. Best of luck. You are very fortunate to have such a great relationship with the ex--the child really benefits from that.
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